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BM is intimidated by me. Why would she tell me this??

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So BM drops SS off tonight. I ask her what extra time she is agreeing for DH to have over the Xmas holidays (as per co extra parenting time should be awarded to DH as and when he is able to take it when he isn't working) also the reason I asked was DH is at work when SS is droped off and I need to get the logistics of the Xmas holidays sorted. She agrees to all the time DH has asked for which has got to be a first.

OT thanks echo for your words of comfort and advice!

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Just wanted to update the ladies who posted on my blog about my DS 7 months not sleeping. I wanted to first say a big thankyou to everyone who offered words of advice, methods to try and comfort. I especially wanted to say thankyou to echo for her advice. I was really down on myself yesterday and felt like the worst mum and her words made me feel like there was light at the end of this sleepless tunnel and that I had support here if I needed it she also felt like a friend last night an thats what i needed most.

OT shall I use the CIO method with DS7 months?

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My DS will be 7 months old soon and has been exclusively breastfed from day one. He stll continues to wake upto 8 times a night, he is not really feeding during this time just using me for comfort to get back to sleep. He also starts the night off in his cot but due to him waking so much he ends up in bed with me and DH. I've tried everything to try and settle him back to sleep and he will just continue to scream until I Breastfeed him (as I said not proper feeds just comfort).

What's all this about??

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So just had skid this weekend and something strange happened again. Now when SS comes to us he has a backpack with him that contains clothes to send him home in (we don't send him home in clothes from here and he doesn't wear clothes here from BM's). The last weekend we had SS there was an earring inside (I'm assuming it was BM's) and this weekend there was a pair of underwear. Now the only conclusion is that they belong to BM as there are no other females in her home (both were sent back btw).

So now what??

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After yesterdays arguement (see blog). I told DH that I'm not going to just be the parent that cooks and cleans but has no say in discipline. If he wants me to be a parent then that includes me calling out SS when he does something shitty. If he doesn't want me to do this then I'm not doing cooking, cleaning etc etc for SS either. Being a parent comes as a package, you can't just pick and choose which bits you want me to do, for me it's all or nothing. He says I'm out of line apparently this is about me always having to be right and DH always having to do what I say.

Jeckyl and Hyde???

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So after giving BM *crickets* to her rambling letter about why she won't be allowing DH to have SS anymore time over christmas I think it made her insecurities and paranoia go into overdrive. When DH collected SS from school yesterday BM was there (I honestly thought there was going to be ww3) she came over to me and DH and APOLOGISED for the rambling letter. Her excuse is she has a lot of problems right now and didn't feel well when she wrote it (ok BM just because you feel crap doesn't mean you can break a co).

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