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I must be taking crazy pills.....

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I must be taking crazy pills because aparently DH thought our discussion regarding Christmas didn't apply to his kid...So Dh and I have been trying to put away every little bit that we can to save up towards getting a house. We live in an apartment right now and we have long ago outgrown it. We rarely go out, I clip coupons like a madwoman, We hold off on things unless we absoloutely need them, and pretty much for the most part get by on the bare minimum to try to save up.

I thought these were supposed to be happy thoughts?

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I find myself lately being seriously wary when I think about me and DH having kids of our own. I deffinately want kids, it's something I've always previously looked fondly at and forward to. Lately, though, when we talk about having kids in a couple years, I'm not as excited as I used to be because I have soooo many negative thoughts going through my head of the b.s. I will have to deal with in regards to DH already having a kid.

A ? to the steps out there

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I havn't been on this site for that long, but long enough to realize that I am not alone in having a really hard time dealing with the issues that come along with a blended family. Not only has being on this site shed light onto my situation, but just makes me realize how difficult these step situations can become.

Found this on the net, Kind of Long, But it's good!

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"Nobody ever gets married with the intent of getting a divorce. Most of us think that our marriages will last forever. Divorce, and children born out of wedlock, are the number one contributors of stepfamilies. Most
women go into the situation delusional. Women think sacrificing, being kind, and giving to stepkids will make them like you. Well it won't. I don't care how hard you try, If the children have made up in their minds that they're not going to like you, chances are, they won't.

Fixed visits are getting old

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As the skid weekend rapidly approaches, I'm starting to realize just how irritating the fixed skid weekend really is. My husband and I work all week, then we have to follow another "schedule" for every other weekend going out to MIL's. I'm getting really iritated by having to go out there, no matter what else we may have going on. Beyond the work that we do during the week, we also always have work to do on the weekend as well. So, we need to get up drive the hour to MIL's, then drive the hour back to town, then work until 8,9,10 at night in order to get the things done that we need to.

This makes no sense...

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This may sound petty, but it really go on my nerves and hit a sore spot. So, I was on Facebook the other day and was browsing profiles. I happened to come along my sister in law's facebook page and I took a look at her friend list. I was kind of shocked to see that BM was one of her friends on there. Seeing that DH and BM only "dated" for like a month, it's not like SIL had formed some sort of relationship with BM. Soooooo I also see that my Brother in law's fiancee is on Facebook as well. And what do you know? She is BM's friend on there too!

Miss DH

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I miss DH so very much. We don't get shit for time together. During the week, he leaves at about 7a.m. I will get up with him to make us some coffee and that gives us about 15 minutes together. He doesn't get done with work until about 7-8p.m. As soon as he gets home we have dinner together, he takes a shower and we go to bed so that gives s about 2 hours together at night max. On the weekends, we either have work that needs to be done on Saturday or Sunday.

Another great visit at MILs'....

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Another great visit at MIL's to see skid. It's the same old tired crap every time we go.

Got there...As soon as we did, before DH's brother says hi to either of us, he starts talking about skid and play by play of what happened that day (not even anything relevent, just the same story 80 times).

We go inside and skid is acting like a tyrant. Of course this is because she "isn't feeling well again, didn't get a nap, etc etc."

To you, DH...

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Dear DH,

I have been through several years of you putting BM's feelings before my own. While it has got better (not non-existant), I still hold onto all the times where you put my feelings in storage, while you stroked her ego.

I am your wife; she never was. She was just some flavor of the month that you picked up while you were out.

I became friends with you; built that strong friendship with you which became a strong foundation for our relationship.

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