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Willing to experiment this weekend

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Submitted by time2live on Fri, 03/16/2012 - 1:39pm

So, I'm 3 yrs in to this whole blended fam thing, and i have gone thru a roller coaster of emotions and ways of coping. I am finally at the point where I am willing to just let go. I have been treading water furiously for 3 yrs trying to keep my head above the surface. this wknd i am just going to stretch out on God and do the back float.

I know the secret

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Submitted by time2live on Mon, 11/07/2011 - 6:11pm

Want the secret to no more drama, not being so easily offended, no more button-pushing, and no more fear -anxiety - depression - and hopelessness in your stepfamily household?? It's one word. One action. Prayer.
"Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done.
And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive."

3 years in And Feeling Better

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Submitted by time2live on Tue, 10/18/2011 - 7:41pm

I'm happy to report that 3 years into my marriage with SS11 and SD7, things have gotten markedly better. SD7 reported to me that she pulled out another one of her own teeth. This is the child whose BM would not pull her daughter's teeth or take her to the dentist when she had loose teeth and new ones growing in. I literally had to pull out her first four teeth; DH wouldn't do it, BM wouldn't do it. SD7 also just reported that when BM said "pick out a cereal" in the cereal aisle, SD7 decided ON HER OWN to choose oatmeal.

why do i let them have so much power in my house

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Submitted by time2live on Sat, 05/15/2010 - 9:13am

I don't like who i become when the skids are here. i feel more like a warden, trying to head off everything that they are getting ready to do, there's so much tension when they're here. i don't like that feeling of tension in my house. i like a feeling of peace and calm and love. and when they're here it is a huge struggle. i feel trapped when they're here. like i can't do what i want to do, i can't move around freely.