So, I'm 3 yrs in to this whole blended fam thing, and i have gone thru a roller coaster of emotions and ways of coping. I am finally at the point where I am willing to just let go. I have been treading water furiously for 3 yrs trying to keep my head above the surface. this wknd i am just going to stretch out on God and do the back float. I'm always prepared at the top of each weekend with a plan - a plan for how to be out of the house and avoid his kids; a plan for how to keep my kids from getting into drama w/his kids; and it requires soooo much energy to prevent the continuous drama that these skids bring into my otherwise peaceful home. but i'm trying to keep an open mind. maybe its been wasted energy all this time. so this wknd i will see what happens when i don't try to prevent every thing that i assume will occur. Lord knows i can use the break. wish me luck!