:sick: i have the same kinda situation i have a step son that does not work does not pay any bills are nothing he has been living with us since he was 19 and he is now going on 23.my husbands only child in which i can understand ok,but when it comes to him doing certain things by himself he does not do it he makes his dad do it he is not the kind to do anything for himself cause his dad will not tell him to do anything and everytime my husband decides on anything it is not with me he decides with his 22 year old son he does not come to me about nothing my husband tries to claim that he was