I can't believe there is a site for people like me!!! Yeahhhh!. Just a little history. My husband is the custodial parent of a now 14 year old girl. I met my husband after he had been divorced for two years. His daughter had just turned eight. For the past 6 years I have functioned as "mom". Her birth mom ( I will not call her mother) has never paid child support, refuses to pay and is now about 27,000 in arrears. Her visits have always been sporadic and for the past two years we did not know where she was or what she was doing. Now after two years she has returned.