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Another wonderful weekend!

Ronda's picture

Well, she's baaaack!
We did not hear from our daughters BM so my husband called to find out if she wanted our daughter this w/e. My husband also told her we would not continue to call her and that if she did not call to confirm her visits, we would not drop our daughter off. Well, things went downhill from there. Bio mom insisted she did not need to call about visitation, that we needed to call her every other week. Then she hung up. Hubby called her again to tell her what time we would drop our daughter off and what time we would pick her up Sun, and again on 4th of July (it's supposed to be her holiday with biom). After I dropped off our daughter at BM's (my husband was at work), bio mom called my husbands cell and left a threatening message that we had better bring her over on tues and that if we did not, my husband was going to have some problems with her. She then called our home and left a hateful message, stating that I should have stayed outside of her home and explained why I was dropping off our daughter (who cares who drops her off as long as she gets there safe and sound?!!!). She then threatened again that if our daughter was not there on the 4th there would be trouble.

I am so tired of all of this fighting. I think we may have to suspend everything until we go to court. She has no intention of trying to have a civil relationship. Every little thing has to be a battle. Why in the world would someone need to call her to find out if she wants to see her daughter? Maybe because she has not been there on numerous occasions when we have driven 30 min to drop off our child. I hate the games she plays. I think part of the problem is that we sent her a bill for her portion of the orthodontic bill, not that I think she intends to pay, but still. You would think that after a deliberate two year absense and a massive child support bill that is due, she would try to get along with us. I'm so sad right now. And so very, very, tired of all of this. I am so worried about our daughter being over there. I don't know if bio was high or not, it just doesn't make any sense that she would call and harp about Tues when we already confirmed that we would drop her off. Oh, and did I mention that she demanded that our daughter be clean and dressed nice (like she's every anything but), this from a woman who will not even buy a toothbrush for our daughter to use when she visits. I think of how my mom and dad were with each other when they divorced and I am so grateful.

I pray that after our court date, this will be behind us until she gets some help. I really think she may be using again, she is so erratic.

If any of you have a prayer list, please put us on it. This is really hard to deal with.

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alaw1981's picture

It sounds like the ex wife is nuts just like my husband's ex wife. The woman has not been around and now that I am in the picture she tries to be. Just keep your cool and it seems you are doing the right thing. I know the fighting is sad and tiresome. We don't go through it as bad but when we have the moments she refuses to answer her cell phone and does not have a home phone so she pretty much goes in to hiding.

Your post about an inappropriate message she left on your answering machine made me think of something that happened with us. She called one night when we were all out and so of course no one was home to answer the phone. Thinking we were just "avoiding" her calls (when she in fact does that to us then swears up and down we never called), she left this nasty message saying "well if you are screening my calls I would appreciate it if you have the kids call me and stop screening." Well my husband had a few words with her and of course she played it off like "what are you talking about" crap.