So my girlfriends daughter has her dad back in her life after 9 years of him never being there what so ever (ditched my GF when she found out she was prego) . the kid likes him because he buys her love all the time when he comes and visits. It just makes it really difficult for me emotionally because when me and my gf made it official (her daughter was 8. Was 9 when her dad came back and is now 10) it was with the underatanding that i would be taking on the role of the other parent and we'd be moving on in our lives together as a family.