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I want Ss to move out

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I feel horrible. But the past few days have been bad. My Dh had a huge fight with Ss on Thursday and he said something that Ss took completely wrong. He was physically trying to push my Dh away and managed to give my Dh a bruise on his cheek. Then when my Dh tried to hold his arms down, Ss was screaming bloody murder. He hates being touched but I think being restrained pushed him over the edge. Then, a few days ago, my Dh goes to talk to talk to Ss and apologize for the comment and Ss threw a glass at him. A real glass. It missed and shattered but it could have really hurt.

Ss wants tattoos.

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That might have sounded bad. But it is not as bad as it sounds. I feel he might have a legitimate reason. When he was 9, Bm's pedophile husband burned two disgusting, vulgar words on Ss's back. These are just two of the many physical scars Ss will have to carry with him the rest of his life. The burn scars were made using a wire hangar. We tried a laser treatment that was very expensive but barely faded out the scars. It is still very clear. We tried numerous creams. We consulted a dermatologist but he said they would probably not fade.

Plans being postponed

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Ss had one of his meltdowns on Wednesday. Ss was talking more than he usually does and my Dh was feeling proud. So he reached in for a hug. Ss recoiled and was freaking out, screaming 'Don't touch me!' It must have triggered a memory in him. There are so many things that trigger bad memories for Ss that send him into panic attacks. Some examples are swimming and the movie theater. We are not able to do anything with him. My Dh has not been with me and my kids for so many things because of this. I feel guilty for saying this but I do feel resentment about it.

Our experience with an online predator

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I found out today that Ss is not up for the shelter visit today. He has days where he finds it difficult to get out of bed, even after the depression medication. Yesterday was rough on him so we decided to reschedule for Monday. But I wanted to share the frightening experience we had with Ss and a online pedophile. I always wanted to share this because I think some parents do not realize how easy it is for these men to get a hold of your child. I hope that by sharing this, another child maybe saved from what my Ss went through.

Why doesn't anything go right?

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I was fully expecting Ss to return with a dog today. Instead, he comes back very upset. I asked how it went and Ss says "Even dogs don't like me!". And he just shuts himself in his room. I made my Dh explain everything. When Ss found out about the dog he got very excited. But when they got there, the dogs were shying away from Ss. Or they would just growl at him. He was trying to pet them but they were going into a corner. This is pretty normal I thought. I went there yesterday and picked out a few. Some were cowering from me too. But I think Ss interpreted it wrong and got hurt.

Will someone talk me out of ripping pictures of the Bm to shreds?

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I have a day off. My Dh took Ss to buy some clothes and they are going to the animal shelter after, as a surprise for Ss. My children were with my parents since yesterday so I decide to get rid of some trash and donate some old toys and clothes for the Sick Kids foundation when I had the chance. They come pick up the stuff so I give back and get some space in our garage at the same time. It was pretty early but I am a early riser. While doing that, I found a box full of pictures of Ss when he was younger. It was never opened.

Karate plan was a failure, onto Plan B

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The karate class was supposed to happen yesterday. My Dh, Ss and I drove there together. The plan was that my Dh and Ss would go for the class while I did grocery shopping. We did not tell Ss about the class until we got there because we knew Ss would put up a fight about not going. He thought he was going to the grocery store with us. Maybe that was our mistake but there was no other way around it.

Exasperated and sad

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I am sorry for blogging again. But I am going out my mind. There were two kids playing outside in our neighbourhood. They are from Ss's school. I tell Ss maybe he should try talking to them. This is our daily life. We are always looking for kids and asking Ss to talk to them. He has stopped trying for a while but he looked a bit interested today. So he goes to his room, wears nice clothes. Then I hear him in his room memorizing jokes from a book the therapist gave him. That tugged a few heartstrings. I hate seeing him try so hard.

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