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Skids gifts to dh

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Sun, 02/10/2019 - 6:09pm

I know this is really stupid but I need to vent. The skids keep giving dh gifts I had planned. They don't know bc I don't talk to them about it.

A few weeks ago sd22 wanted her and dh to go see Aquaman together and that's what I had planned to surprise dh with while my kids were gone with their dad for xmas day.

How cps is handling my skid situation

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Wed, 10/10/2018 - 5:59am

My sd17 has 2 kids and lives with her addict mother and their boyfriends in a disgusting nasty home that neighbors and others have called cps about. Cps is heavily involved yet again and this time their verdict is sd17 goes to Job Corp or jail because she is willingly keeping her kids in a dangerous situation. Babydaddy won't keep a job. Gskid1 goes to it's babydaddy's grandma and gskid2 stays with it's babydaddy but babydaddy can't stay at sd's mom's house.

I'm butthurt

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Sat, 09/22/2018 - 11:25pm

SO is disabled and totally unable to have a job. This, I am ok with and I work and he helps out where he can with the kids and home. His grown kid and the 17 year old mother of 2 still needs money/groceries sometimes and he'll zelle money to one or order groceries for one to pick up at Wal-Mart. Well tonight I found out his kids KNEW he doesn't work. They know *I* work  and that that's where the money comes from. They ask HIM for it and have never thanked ME.

Visit with the skids this weekend

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Mon, 09/03/2018 - 10:18pm

Rented a minivan we didn't need and got a hotel room and the visit costed around $400. Then we get home and have to spend more money on them that we shouldn't have had to. But over all the visit wasn't terrible. We didn't even go to BM's apartment because sd17's babydaddy drove her to meet us everywhere. None of the skids will get their liscence so they have to be driven everywhere. SD19 was bratty a few times and won't ever just not argue with everybody, and sd17 and her little family stank really badly. SO is heartbroken over how they live. I feel bad for him.

Visiting skids this weekend

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Wed, 08/29/2018 - 11:22pm

We haven't gone to visit the skids in 10 months(they've come to us a couple of times). It's 4 hours away. We usually for some reason or another end up going inside BM's house, to help carry skids stuff in or the gskid's car seat or whatever. SO used to even look through the fridge to make sure they had food. He has changed a light bulb and fixed a vacuum cleaner. I had to make an issue of this, showing how I DO NOT enter my ex's home, not to help carry stuff in or fix things or clean anything.

I had a wonderful vacation

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Mon, 08/13/2018 - 9:57pm

Just my husband and all of my bio kids(even the grown ones <3), no skids. It was so wonderful. No drama, no shitty attitudes besides normal 6 year old being over tired one day. I know SO missed his kids as this was his first "family" vacation ever as an adult and it wasn't with his kids but he really enjoyed it as well. He did say his kids would have ruined it with their attitudes. I badly needed this myself, the vacation and the mom-time. I am so glad they were not able to go. 

Sh!t hit the fan and then some, a rant to get it all out

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Wed, 07/18/2018 - 1:24am

My MIL brought SD22 home this evening and marched right up to us questioning if I was going to be driving her to work when she starts her new job because it's going to cost so much for her to pay for cabs/lyfts. I yet again pointed out how she refused to help around the house and that was the rule for me driving grown kids around. She said, "Well that's shitty." and SO LOST HIS SHIT. They yelled back and forth, mil saying stuff like dh treats sd22 like shit and she knew it would turn out like this and dh told her to leave and not ever come back.

I'm a SM but also a BM

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Submitted by Nottakingit on Sun, 07/08/2018 - 5:39pm

I have views from both sides. I see the terrible ways my SD's behave and how stupid and evil their BM is, and my BD comes home from her dad and SM's smelling disgusting, covered in cat scratches and eating junk food for 3 days and with a bad cough from being in the cigarette smoke.