Skids gifts to dh
I know this is really stupid but I need to vent. The skids keep giving dh gifts I had planned. They don't know bc I don't talk to them about it.
A few weeks ago sd22 wanted her and dh to go see Aquaman together and that's what I had planned to surprise dh with while my kids were gone with their dad for xmas day.
Then our anniversary is in March and I was going to buy us tickets to "our" band's concert, including vip passes, and give him the tickets for our anniversary. But his sd19 bought us, her and her boyfriend tickets to that same concert and gave them to us for xmas!! I was so shocked and I cried(she told us on the phone and she doesn't know how I feel or what I planned) and dh was like, "you are upset that sd did something you hadn't even done yet"(I was waiting for my after-xmas check to buy the tickets) He totally doesn't get it. This was perfect for our anniversary. I feel so crushed.
Then today his sd22 spent the day here and gave us all Valentine candy and gave dh the exact same chocolate tin that I bought and have hidden away.
My sd19 bought him an ornament I had found from his favorite xmas movie so now he has two.
I know how stupid it sounds but I'm really tired of the "special" things being taken over by his kids. And I understand that his kids love him and this all is meaningful to him. My kids always check with me to make sure I haven't gotten him the same thing already and I just can't imagine one buying fucking concert tickets to our favorite band without making sure we didn't or I didn't have anything planned. I dread going and sd has this weird singing voice and will be singing the whole time beefbecause everyone tellsher how good it is and dh is going to be thrilled and won't understand why this bothers me. His daughter did something nice and I'm ungrateful :/
Is there a graceful way to stop these things from happening or do I just continue being a silent resentful bitch?