I don't want to give up on my marriage. I love DH very much but feel like since DD has been born, and probably started slightly before that, DH and I are just not that compatible. I feel like I deserve a husband that enjoys and lives for spending time with his family. But it seems like he would much rather work. I'm sick of nagging him to spend time with us, only to be told that he'd like to but he's too busy with his work. I know that he is busy, but he makes time to spend with his buddies but DD and I are an after thought.

So DH and I are currently living separately, not that we are separated or anything, but because he is in the process of renovating our new house and has completely torn it apart to start from scratch. So DD and I are at my parents for the time being. We are 9 hours away from each other. Our communication during this time apart has not been good, it's easier when we are living together but even then it's not great, I admit. Anyways, DH is coming down to see his son next weekend at MILs house and DD and I are expected to go to MILs too. Now here's the issue.

So while we are waiting on word from BM to confirm that we are getting SS for the summer, DH and I went ahead and made a list of rules I would like SS to abide by when he's with us. DH actually went Along with it pretty well. Then we got to the discussion of allowance. I said he should get $1 per day for following the rules. The rules are basic stuff. Just clean up after yourself, ask before you anything that isn't yours, stuff like that, it's not even any chores. So that would make it 7 dollars a week, and 28 a month which he could pretty get a good toy with.