A Big Rant
I'm unreasonable. I'm not fair. I'm always causing problems. I'm abusive. I hurt confidence and crush self-esteem. I only have negative things to say. I like to point out flaws and laugh at mistakes. I'm lazy and use all the money on myself. I brainwash my spouse and favor my own child.
Why not take it a bit further. What's an evil stepmom really like? At first it's difficult to imagine myself as mean stepmom because I'm not one, but luckily I have a very vivid imagination.
I could dip your toothbrush in the toilet.
I could add something to your face wash that will clog pores.
I could take a little bit of dirt or even a black permanent marker and make one or two marks on a pair of your white shoes you love.
I could use something semi sharp to make small nicks to all the bristles of your hair brush so you have very frizzy and damaged hair.
(Let's go up a couple degrees)
I could tell your friends in an off handed way all the mean things you say about them when they aren't around.
I could make some damage to your iphone charging cord.
(Note: If any of you are secretly or not so secretly guilty of any of the things I list I'm not here to judge. I'm just speaking for myself when I say these things are not something I would do although a couple of the the things above I have loosely considered.)
I could report you to the DMV for driving under the influence and your brand new license could be taken away. It's only because I was so very concerned about your safety and the safety of others on the road.
I could start whining about all the things I think I need and there would be no money left over for you.
Whenever you go somewhere with a friend I will make sure I give their parent a heads-up about some of your mental issues and how they should watch out for theft. I'll let them know we are working on it with you and please not to mention it to you because you get so angry whenever someone brings it up and we are doing better on anger issues too.
I could use any optimal situation as an opportunity to make you look bad.
Once you get tons of anxiety from the things I do that can't be proved I'm behind them I can take you to the doctor for help because I'm really concerned and care. I'll make sure you get the help you need and that means a psychiatrist. I will get you diagnosed and get a prescription for Thorazine and maybe Lithium.
I can make it all get worse than this. We've all heard the news and read some stories that we wish we hadn't. Stuff I can't even write because they are so bad.
The thing is none of this is me.
Instead I do this...
I worry about homeless people and animals when it gets cold outside.
I go to training on preventing child abuse and intervening on child sexual abuse.
Called out your dad telling him not to say bad things about your mom.
Stick up for you in private with your dad when I feel he is being unfair to you or needs to understand your situation better.
Take you shopping with my money.
Pay attention to the things I think you really like and you have mentioned that you like.
Give up things of my own because you need them worse than me.
Smile and listen while you talk about memories you have with your mom becasue it's important to you and you love her.
Tell your dad you haven't been in the shower as long as he thinks because it's true.
Encourage your dad to spend time with you alone and without me on a regular basis.
Go to your school meetings.
Signed you up for school when your mom hadn't.
Raised all that money for you to go to camp.
Scooped you up and held you behind me when you were little because a drunk belligerent stranger walked into our campsite and wouldn't leave.
Agonized over Christmas presents hoping you like them and felt you were treated fairly in the amount you received compared to others.
Demand to be treated with respect.
Not accept excuses.
Hold you accountable for your actions.
Not tolerate treating other people with cruelty.
Not allowing you to make fun of others or laugh at their mistakes or when they get hurt.
Remind you of manners.
Supported you when you were having problems at school, with a teacher, or with friends.
I have been there for you an infinite amount of times that you know about and even more that you don't know about.
What have you done for me?
Tried turning your dad against me when you knew you were in the wrong and lying.
Tried to make me think that your half sister had drowned when I couldn't find her but you knew where she was all along. Then you brought the situation up in such a way that made me sound like I had lost her to your dad.
Did something that you didn't want to get in trouble for or admit that you did it so you blamed it on me.
Tell lies about me to your friends, your friends parents, your relatives, and even my family.
Steal from me.
Tell people that we physically abuse you.
Threaten to call child services when you aren't getting your way.
Bring a friend over without asking first and then after being told you still do it anyway and make me look like the bad guy when I say they have to go home.
Shoving and tripping your 6 year old little sister telling her she dumb and stupid. When confronted on it you played the victim that misses her mom so much and was just acting out on all the hurt you feel inside.
Talk to me and everyone else like you are superior and we are all inferior.
Hurt my dog intentionally.
Verbally abuse my dog.
Told your mom I wouldn't let you shower for no reason when actually you wouldn't stop arguing with me about why I wouldn't let you go to a boy's house while his parents weren't home so I told you to go to your room.
Get your grandpa to believe that I'm so bad to you that I need counseling and no else has to go but me.
Frequently whine "I didn't do anything!" when we both know that's a for sure sign that you obviously did.
Give the impression to others and tell them that I emotionally abuse you by always making you feel bad about yourself, always so critical of you, and always being negative.
Called me bad names.
Stopped coming to me for support because your friends saw the positive things I would write to help you with your anxiety and then when you would tell them how mean I am they didn't believe you. <br>Try to take your little sister's friends and their parents into a friendship with you so you can then tell lies about her and us and try to turn them against us. You do this with family too.
Now tell me again and everyone else what a mean and unfair person I am.
To you and your dad, is it any wonder I've backed out of parenting?