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SD17 Offers Vape to DD10

morrgin's picture

SD17 asked DD10 if she wanted to vape! And offered it to her!!! DD overheard me telling DH that in SD's last visit I couldn't believe she pulled out a vape pen and took a drag from it right in front me. That's when DD chimed in that SD offered it to her to try. She said it happened a few weeks back. DD always waits a long time to tell me these things. (SD rarely comes over anymore.) I hate that I have to explain to DH that its illegal for 17 year olds to vape and what kind of parents just allow it under their roof? He agreed but that means nothing. He turns into a comple moron when it comes to SD. I hate to say that about him but its sadly true.

More importantly I'm furious at SD for offering DD a vape. What kind of person offers such a thing to a 10 year old? My older sisters never offered me anything having to do with addictive chemicals. Even if DD was in her teenage years it would still not be acceptable. Older siblinga are supposed to be protective of younger siblings. There is no excuse for it. I know teenagers make bad decisions, are immature, want freedom, and don't have a fully developed brain. Besides all that, a normal teenager knows not to give nicotine to a child!

I asked DD if she tried it . I had to ask. She quickly said no and how bad it is for your health. She must of later looked into it because recently she started going off about vaping and lung injury. (I hope anyone here who vapes doesn't take any of this personally. I know cigarettes are really bad and I smoke. I vape sometimes.) I did a lot of stupid and thoughtless things as a teenager, but offering drugs to kids was never one of them.


Iamwoman's picture

They aren't siblings - the are step siblings. There is a HUGE difference.

Yes, siblings are protective of one another.

Step siblings however (for the most part, and there are always exceptions of course), could not care less about one another. They are intrusions into each other's worlds, competition for parental resources, and usually - as you are experiencing - have completely different upbringings and morals/values.

I remember the day well where I realized our families would never blend:

OSS(then 8 ) and DD(then 10) were at summer karate camp together, DD forgot her lunch that day and I couldn't bring it to her as I was at work (DH too). She was hungry and on the verge of tears at lunch time. Do you think OSS offered her any of his lunch?? No. He ate it right in front of her and enjoyed her suffering. 
My siblings and I would have split our lunch in such a situation.

When confronted, OSS said "Why should I? She's the one who forgot her lunch."

Thats the day I began to realize that my OSS(15, then 8 ) was a sick *uck. 
I continued to give him the benefit of the doubt for many years though, but he only continued to prove how psychotic and charactistically disgusting he is.

DH refuses to believe that OSS15 has had any choice in his own character development and blames it all on Maggot's PASing.

I know better, and I urge you to know better too.

Your SDdiesnt give a crap about DD and would most likely enjoy watching DD suffer and destroy her own life with similar or worse personal choices than she makes herself.

Please teach your DD that SD is not her real sibling, and not to trust SD's intentions.

Protect your DD form SD.

Dont expect your DH to ever believe that his precious child could possibly be a bad apple. He won't. He will always blame an outside source.

tog redux's picture

I don't know, I'm 8 years younger than my sister, and 7 years younger than my brother,  and I could see them doing something like this, just a stupid teen thing.

Lucky for her 10-year-olds are usually very morally righteous and against things like smoking/vaping.

NollJohnsen's picture

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FinallySkidFree's picture

What was your DH's response to this? I would have been PISSED. Good on your DD that she didn't take her stupid SS's guidance. What an a*hole.