I am new here. I've got to find someone that relates! I've been a SM for going on 16 years. I'm so tired of the BS and drama my SKIDS have created over the years. It's made my DH into a guilty, unloving, uncaring, balless shrew of a man. I have always felt like the gf or second wife. I hope that's normal! I've actually come a long way..at one point, around 8 years ago, I finally quit letting them use up my head space but with them getting older now, they're creating drama again and using manipulative tactics to get under my skin. For instance, my 21skid is now a stepmom to a little boy.