I've made the choice to leave. I've set a date of June 1, 2015 - relocating out of province. I need 6 mos to save up cash and tie up all my loose ends, find work, find a place to live.

I'm scared. I'm a tough woman and I'm not afraid to be on my own. But this is a bigger endeavor simply for the fact that I live in a very small community, which is gossipy and judgmental. I'm already an "outsider" having moved here for my spouse - surely my choice to leave will become a witch hunt.

DH comes home last night, in a bad mood.

He works in agriculture & his crop this year is a diseased mess. He preemptively warned me that there would be less money this year for incidentals & that we would probably need to tighten up the budget.

No problem for me, I grew up poor, I can make it work.

Told him I suggest he speak to his greedy X and let her know that maybe he needs a break on the CS he pays. (prev post mentioned he overpays by $300/mo.)

Four years ago I contracted herpes from my partner. We had been seeing each other for about a month, and it was quite casual. When we had sex, neither of us had discussed STDs and we also didn't use protection. I didn't have anything to disclose - and naively I assumed he didn't either.

When I was diagnosed at the doctor, (humiliated/embarrassed/etc), I confronted my partner. He said he hadn't had an outbreak in over a year and thought he had "beaten it". I was horrified??? Confused? Completed in shock as to his arrogance in thinking he beat an incurable disease??? Who says that.

So DH has a cellphone (duh) and SS8 uses it to call mommy all the time. About 6 months ago, he learned that phones can text/send pics as well. He started texting his mom from DH's phone... Which is fine, but I definitely felt that allowing an 8 y/o free rein of your phone isn't appropriate. Anyways, I digress.