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Update on SD14 continued drama....

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Well after SD's email yesterday to her Dad complaining about my son and an incident on the bus, he sent a reply. My son had had it with her. Apparently for the last month, she has been sitting closer and closer with her friend. She was egging him on. He has never said a word to her since the day she left this house. My son is older than her and has a large group of male friends that congregate at the back of the bus. They have a good time and she wants to be included in that.

Dr. Phil - PAS Episode

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If you didn't get a chance to see the episode last week, go online and watch the clips. It is about a Stepmom and the BM who lost custody. Personally I think both are overly aggressive people. But, Dr. Phil didn't believe that PAS is a true disorder. If you read the blogs, many people disagreed with him. Makes for interesting reading.

I would like to see one show where the SM doesn't look as nutty as the BM. The sad thing is no one actually seemed to be concerned about the kids.

Stepmom realization...

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I came to a realization recently. That when the turning point in this blended family came it was because I finally stopped fighting with DH and the kids. I stepped back and realized (thanks to this board)that it was futile. They were not my kids and no matter what I felt they were not a reflection of me. Only my son was. I think looking back now, DH's moment, was when I pointed out that why were we allowing the kids to talk to me in a manner that he wouldn't allow them to talk to another adult in their lives. I pointed it out a couple of times.

Emails continue....

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DH and BM and these long emails continue. Although, this last one to BM was fun to read. He is tired of her not settling the CO and continuing to try and find things wrong with SS. Rather than parenting SS12 she continues to try and find activities for him to "Fix" him. He is fine when he is here. We don't see all the problems that she is talking about. Her last email indicated that he required her to tell him something 5 times to get him to do it. Well we never have that issue. DH asks him to do something he does it. She says he won't do his homework at her house.

Need to vent

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BM is a real piece of work. Last week she attempted to put SS12 on Zoloft for Anxiety. DH put out an email that under no circumstances was that to happen. SS12 came back Monday and DH asked if his mom gave him anything. He said no medicine, but she did start him on new vitamins and Fish Oil. DH said fine, but if he noticed anything different he was to tell him. She listened for once.

BM and drugs for SS - Want opinions....LONG!

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Here is our recent battle wth BM. SS12 has some anti-social behavior and seems to have some problems at school with breakdowns from being picked on. BM wants to put him on Zoloft and another med since she thinks he also has Tourette's. He doesn't of that I am sure. We had him tested last year and he does have mild ADD. Tried a pill for that at her request. Stopped it when he started getting severe migraines.

I screwed up!! I hate this town....

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Well - the drama continues. SD14 is a pain in the a**. I have been out walking the dog lately since the weather is more bearable and because BM chooses to live in the next subdivision over, I keep running into them. Last week SS12 almost hit my car driving their Golfcart. Two days ago she is running and stops in front of our house to talk to a neighbor. Last night, SD14 is on a golf cart with two of her friends and pass me walking the dogs. Which by the way one is her dog. It is 8:00pm on a school night. The first thing out of my mouth is "Homework all done" She says yes.

Does this happen to anyone?

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BM just sent an email to DH that she is taking the kids to SC for the weekend. It is Thursday and they are leaving tomorrow. We are still involved in the CO modification. So the law says you are supposed to get approval from the other parent if you are leaving the county if you are involved in a case. We had to get permission for a trip recently. She did too. Now she seems to have forgotten that again.

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