3rd message from BM about food stamps
So BM sent another text to both DH and myself after I already told her that I'm not part of her custody situation so I can't help her. This time with a picture attached of the letter from social services. Which says she needs verification of SD living with her from DH. Specifically says DH. It does not say an email and I don't think an email is going to be good enough verification of what SDs living situation is. Usually they want mail addressed to them or a custody order. None of which she has because DUE TO HER choices SDs residential address has always been ours. SD has went to school in our district since kindergarten because BM had plans to move away and ditch SD for her boyfriend (until he broke up with her right before she was supposed to move).
She's a persistent idiot. Time to treat her like a bill collector I guess. Ignore ignore.
The audacity is the part that's really getting to me. That she seriously thinks after 6 years of 50/50, us putting up with her crap consistently, a large part of the time me taking care of her kid more than her, etc etc, we're just going to help her dumb *ss be a worthless leech. And why is she still sending me messages about it? Does she think I feel bad for her and will convince DH to verify in writing that she's getting full custody without going to court at all?
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Does he plan to say anything
Does he plan to say anything to her?
Idk...I think he's afraid of
Idk...I think he's afraid of saying anything at all in case it gets twisted somehow if they do end up going to court. Never know which biases the judge has. Maybe he could say something along the lines of that her permanent address has been in our city since 2015.
Idk, between her and MIL I'm so burnt out on even hearing from these crazy people I don't even want to think about it. Just vent on here and be done with it.
"To Whom It May Concern until
"To Whom It May Concern until two months ago daughter resided with me part time, her residential address is also mine as my ex has wanted daughter to attend my school district. Also there is no established child custody via the court system as ex didn't want courts involved. Please let me know if there is any further information you need from me." It's up to social services to decide how to proceed after that, but he did do what BM wanted.
Yes I suppose that is all
Yes I suppose that is all accurate info.
How about: To Whom It May
How about: To Whom It May Concern: I am technically, per our informal agreement, the residential parent, and have been for 5 years. BM is currently refusing to honor our 50/50 custody agreement."
I do think you should write a
I do think you should write a letter like others suggested and send her a copy. She wouldn't need food stamps if she followed the agreement they had with 50/50.
He does need to make a move with the courts though. This is a dangerous game to keep playing.
I would definitely respond in
I would definitely respond in writing or directly to her local social services office without saying a word to BM about it.
Per our agreement with parents share 50/50 custody with primary being ______ address. The child attending_______ school.
I have not consented to any changes in the current custody/ visitation agreement.
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Do not underestimate a dog on a bone. IF she is fighting for food stamps you can bet she is going for more free stuff. Cha ching.
Wait until you hear "oh mom and I found this new church to go to" later finding out she mooched free money from the church. Some moms church hop.
I am soooooooooo not joking.
People hustle people more than we realize and I still cant wrap my head around that mind set.
I agree with the suggestion for letters.
Oh this is 100% it. After
Oh this is 100% it. After watching my ODS dad's parasitic lifestyle (and being majorly taken advantage of when I was with him) I can spot someone with that personality quickly. That's why I don't feel even remotely bad for her. She'll always find another sucker to help her out - there's always someone with a bleeding heart or thats lonely to take advantage of. Like the $1000 cash she got for Christmas from her cleaning client who had taken her on as a charity case. And is paying for their summer vacation.
They literally have zero concern about how it affects others and feel entitled to be all take and no give. It makes me sick. I enjoy helping people who truly need it and appreciate it. As soon as I sense manipulation or a parasite I won't lift a finger to help.
Disturbing actions are'nt
Disturbing actions are'nt they. ^^^^
Super easy to spot the scam from miles, sometimes states away.
It's sad that some people can
It's sad that some people can't. I saw a post not long ago about a lady scamming people for free childcare by writing bad checks. One of the people commenting said she was going to be the bigger person and reach out and see if she needed help. Please lady, stop. This is why people continue being dishonest. It's just a numbers game. They reach out to as many people as possible until someone bites.