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I think we've turned the page

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Mon, 04/22/2024 - 3:22pm

I think we've turned a page in dealing with step drama.

This is a momentous occasion I never saw coming. DH has been in the midst of being stripped of even more time due to sports this Summer after he already agreed to losing two weeks for the ever important school version of the sport.

A week later he gets hit with a request for an additional week for the travel version try outs that have no make up time.

Spring Break

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Fri, 04/05/2024 - 1:16pm

We had Spring Break with SD and let her bring a friend this year.

We went all out and overall I think it went well. (They were living their best lives).

DH and I kinda were just supervisory and 3rd and 4th wheels but we made the best of it, although he got very little one on one time but her age this was the best case scenario we thought letting her bring the friend.

Non-Existent Relationship

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Mon, 03/11/2024 - 12:14pm

DH and SS's (19) relationship is basically non existent at this point. (They are long distance but had always been close during the visitation years). 

Since Christmas, DH has spoken to him exactly once at which point he asked the kid if he had realized how long it had been since they had spoken. Every communication or attempt at communication comes from DH. The kid laughed it off and for probably the first time ever DH's tone was not as nice or understanding or empathetic or jokey or etc. He straight up told the kid it wasn't funny.

Say something or continue to let it go?

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Wed, 02/28/2024 - 8:58pm

DH has two ex wives. OG and he have been divorced 30+ years yet routinely she brings him up to their eldest daughter in some negative form. DH never thinks about this woman at all. The kids are in their 30's now and he hasn't been obligated to deal with her (minus the SK wedding last year) in literal decade+. 
Sometimes he and I literally laugh out loud with each other at the sheer ridiculous notion she STILL has opinions she voices to the kid about him. 

Am I getting softer or just learning to accept it?

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Wed, 01/10/2024 - 1:47pm

DH had SD 2nd half of Christmas which ended last week. SS is aged out and works FT pretty much so he doesn't come anymore.

Prior to SD coming DH had been on the phone with SS where he told DH he was wrapping his sister's gift along with his mother's husband's gift. DH replied cheekily something to the affect "oh I guess you'll be sending my gift with your sister when she comes down". 

SD arrives empty handed (I had taken her shopping when she was here for Turkey Day for her dad).

O/T and TW - The C word

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Thu, 12/07/2023 - 1:28pm

I'm a ball of mess at the moment. Forgive me I know this isn't the most appropriate place to come but it will def. impact my Step world and I have read many stories here and sadly know several have experience so I'm hoping for anyone that is up to it, to prepare me as much as willing/able.

Anyone else feel this way?

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Tue, 11/28/2023 - 4:41pm

I don't know if it is the post Thanksgiving visit reflection or other life happenings but I've been feeling very much like family or the idea of family is being diminished and disregarded more and more every year by society as a whole.

People seem quicker and quicker to write others off even if they are family, which I realize in some instances is good if there are major toxic issues, but I'm talking more about trivial, inconvenient make no effort for family as if it isn't important, type incidents. 

CS and Graduation

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Thu, 10/05/2023 - 12:52pm

A fellow SM I work with is wondering if her husband will pay an entire extra month of CS for his 19 year old son due to his graduation date being the 3rd of June. 

She said the school district ends school for the Seniors a week or two before the rest of the school and the ceremony happens to fall on the 3rd of June despite them being done, all items turned in (chromebooks, library books, etc) a week or two earlier. 

I assume they will have to pay for all of June, but told her I'd ask the experts that maybe have had real life experience. 

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