Deviating from CO
I have two SD's who currently live out of state. The BM has basically been saying she will not send them for the scheduled Christmas break because of something totally exaggerated.
Well in order to get the girls, DH is essentially agreeing to unnecessary measures because with a legal battle it wouldn't be resolved by Christmas anyways and costs. Due to the what ifs, we have opted not to buy the returning flight ticket as of yet, which we are responsible for.
We talked to the attorneys this last week and they stated they are pretty confident we will reach an agreement. They stated we could probably reach out to BM to arrange dates but not to discuss stipulations.
We reach out to BM and in true fashion she makes it more difficult even so. She has requested if there isn't a price difference to book flights from different airports specified in the CO and on a different day to accommodate time for her family.
We aren't exactly opposed to booking the flight a different day but different airports makes me nervous. And at the same time it kind of feels like why should we accommodate when she has made getting this trip arranged incredibly difficult. Then on the other hand it does benefit the girls.
She also offered to pay for all of Christmas and we can book the returning flight for spring break. I don't personally feel it would be worth the savings because what if she pulls the same crap next visit. The stress is not worth the savings.