Here's the story - I moved south 5 years ago, at age 57,  to a small town in north Georgia when my kids graduated from college and were independent.  I met a wonderful man, 4 years old than me, who I realized was supporting his SGD because her mother was apparently mentally ill and couldn't handle being a mother.  I should note that the mother is my husband's SD from his late wife.  The girl, 11 at the time, was a good kid and seemed grateful for the attention.  DH was used to having her at his apartment every weekend, holiday and vacation (including the entire summer) and buying all her cl