Things are good. Babies are good. Sd is good. Bm is hating life. She is really freaking out about not getting child support. DH is taking me to dinner tomorrow night to show me how much he appreciates me. I just wanted to say Hi, I still read everyday but I don't post because nothing is going on.
Sd is calling me grandma all the time now. It's great when she is referring to the babies but when she asked me if I wanted a drink she calls me grandma or she will say grandma is in the bathroom to dh. Why is she doing this?
I knew she would and so did dh so he had a talk with sd. He started off asking her what her life will be like at bms house. Will she and the babies have her own room? No. She will have to share with her little sister. They planned to put the pack in play in the corner so the twins, sd and the kids have their own room here. Dh asked sd who would buy formula and she said she would get welfare. DH asked her if that was what she wanted and she said no. Dh asked her what her relationship with bms boyfriend is like and she hates him, he asked her about me and she said I was okay.
I guess she didn't see a pending transition on her account for her pay day -child support- due tomorrow and called dh to make sure he sent it. Dh said he laughed at her and asked why he would pay when sd lives with us. She told him he has to get a judge to cancel it first and dh told he he gave it to his attorney to hold in case the judge demands he pays it even though sd lives with him now. She is freaking out and demanding he pay and that she will pay it back if thats what the judge says. Dh said no way, sorry! Dh stayed home again today and bm is blowing up sds phone.
There has been no sleep in my house this week and I don't think I have ever been so exhausted before. When one baby cries the other is sleeping and when one sleeps the other cries. Sd gave up on breastfeeding since it's hard and the babies cry so much. She kept asking how to know if they are getting enough. Now that they are on formula they are projectile vomiting everywhere. They have a drs appointment today dh and sd is taking them to. Dh has been home from work the last 2 days. Yes, he has vacation time but I don't feel its fair to use them all on helping sd!
I'm not sure how much more of this I can tolerate. Sd and her twins are ruining our life. It's constant noise and crying with their stuff everywhere. Dh is up and down all night to help her, I finally asked him to sleep on the couch and he is having back pain from it. They have been here 2 weeks/2 1/2 weeks and dh has missed 4 days of work because of being up and helping sd. Bm has taken sd and her twins out once to visit because I said she wasn't allowed here but then she brought them back. Shouldn't she be helping and caring for her kid and grandkids.
Someone asked for an update on my other post. Dh brought sd and her twins home to our house. First he had to buy car seats since bm refused to give him anything she purchased or her family and friends bought. Once they were home dh and I (to be sure he bought only needed items and what those items are, example they don't need a high chair right now and dh tried to buy one)went shopping. We got a pack in play for them to sleep in, onies, t shirts, pjs, bottles and formula, bath stuff, bouncy chair, swing and blankets. Dh spent all his money and not a cent of mine.
Sd had her twins on Saturday and is due to be released today. Bm called dh this morning and said sd and the babies aren't allowed at her house. Sd has told off her boyfriend for the last time and he is going to kick them all out if sd goes back. She told dh to be a dad for once and go get them. We have nothing for sd or her kids. Sd hasn't been here in months and we never thought they would even visit us unless it was Christmas or birthdays. We aren't prepared to have a 15 yr old and her twins and tbh, i don't want them here. I struggle with infertility and this is a hard no for me.
I know it would be over stepping but if sd doesn't go back to her moms should I contact the 3 boys she is accusing of rape and talk to their parents? Let them know about the baby and what sd is accusing them of so that we can get their side and hopefully find out who baby daddy is?
Hi, I've been here a while but I've never needed to post. Sd lived mostly with bm up until this last weekend. Dh saw her when ever it was convenient to them. It's been like this since sd turned 13. He tried to fight it but it was only causing him stress and nothing would work out in his favor. We really only saw sd on the give me holidays. So, I guess bm noticed that her 15 yr old was pregnant and 5 months along to boot! Sd refused to put a bathing suit on over spring break and I guess bm decided to actually look at her daughter.