Bm came for sd and the babies
I knew she would and so did dh so he had a talk with sd. He started off asking her what her life will be like at bms house. Will she and the babies have her own room? No. She will have to share with her little sister. They planned to put the pack in play in the corner so the twins, sd and the kids have their own room here. Dh asked sd who would buy formula and she said she would get welfare. DH asked her if that was what she wanted and she said no. Dh asked her what her relationship with bms boyfriend is like and she hates him, he asked her about me and she said I was okay.
Dh told her about bms texts and told sd it was her choice on what life style she wanted for herself and her kids and he would support her either way. He told her he pays $2500 a month for her at her moms and would pay it for her here. He would give her $1000 a month cash ( he would make sure it's used for the babies and a little left over for her) for baby items - diapers, formula and whatever the babies needed and pay for daycare for her to go back to school. If she was to leave this option will not be offered again or back if she leaves and comes back. When she turns 16 dh will get her a car but she will have to work for gas and insurance. When she is 18 and goes to college dh told her he will still be there to help and make sure she is okay. He told her he would be her rock and make sure she is okay as long as she does HER PART. He told her living here means a college education and help with the babies until she graduates, will bm offer the same. She said no.
Bm showed up while sd was thinking over what dh said. I'm not happy bm was in my house but dh said it was kinda unavoidable. Bm freaked the hell out and was pissed. She promised sd everything she could think of but we already offer her that - support, help and babysitting.
Sd told her she was staying and dh had to call the police to get bm to leave. Bm tried to get the police to make sd leave since she has custody but since sd has children at our house the police declined to make sd leave.
Sd was balling her eyes out when I got hom and she kept telling me she had to do what was best for her kids. She let me hug her and rub her back a little. After about 30 minutes she seemed over the drama and started talking about dual enrollment at school where she can earn college credits while in high school and she wants to be a pharmacist. Dh looked up some programs on line and sd kept saying, do you think I can do it? Your going to help me right? I can do this and I can make a life for them.
I heard the babies crying around 1 this morning so I got up to help sd and she must have thanked me 5 times and she told me she is thankful for me. FOR ME!!! One baby had diarrhea and a diaper rash so we put cream on her and I slept with her on my chest till about 4 when she wanted to eat again.
I'm not getting my hopes up that they stay but I told dh he made her a hell of an offer and if she throws it away she is crazy. He said he knows and he hates that he had to bribe her to stay but he is happy they are staying.