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The Term Step-parent is where the problem begins

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Submitted by Clipper on Fri, 05/17/2019 - 10:14am

This this is where all the problems begin. If two people get remarried and either one of them or both have children why should I even the phrase step parent come into play because either one of them I'm never going to be the parents of their children. Maybe from what I can see 1 out of 10 cases will you have the Brady bunch phenomena.

Disengagement

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Submitted by Clipper on Thu, 05/16/2019 - 3:48pm

For three years I've been trying to do the Brady bunch thing I paid for trips for the stepkids grocery speed cable TV allow my car to be used and we wake up in the morning walk into the room and nobody will say anything I would clean up now the after myself in the kitchen but after the kids so that my second wife the ease some  of the house work after she gets off work and this is in in addition to my demanding full-time job spend the last two weeks when they completely ignored me not saying thank you for any birthday gifts Christmas gifts going out to dinner the mother will have to remind

Are we that much in love with our spouse or significant other?

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Submitted by Clipper on Mon, 05/13/2019 - 6:23pm

I am reading and reading and counting my own situation I don't understand why I  just don't pack up and leave. Why are we staying in an relationship where SC are abusing us and our partner does nothing? Are we in the Stockholm Sydrome?  As for me why can't I just pack up?

Hope and being honest with myself

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Submitted by Clipper on Mon, 05/13/2019 - 12:26pm

Thank you all for your comments.  I just found this site today after three years keep all of these thoughts and feelings to myself and not wanting to share with family who would have said "I told you so." I thus went to the internet and found out that this is a huge problem in second marriages. 

  It is such a relief to realize I am not alone.  I was beating myself saying "why can't I turn the other cheek?"  I believe that I will get a second place like a studio and when I need time to decompress I can go there and yes my son would be more willing to visit his Dad.  

Am I alone is there hope in this?

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Submitted by Clipper on Mon, 05/13/2019 - 11:25am

Second marriage. Two 18 year old girl and boy step children.  Married three years. In the beginning I tried to be the blended family thing.  I have an 18 year old in college who lives with his mom.  He is a great kid and doesn't like interacting with them.  The kids are irresponsible and disrespectful.  In the morning I am use to my household everyone saying good morning.  In this household, I moved into her house, no one says good morning.  The kids do not pick up after themselves.