It doesn't make me happy. It doesn't fill me with joy. I do not have some overwhelming love for my SD. I feel being a stepmom is a responsibility that comes from being with my SO. It is my job to be my SO's support staff. It feels like a job. A job I do not really want. I say support staff because he has to be the one in charge of SD things. I will support him in that. I care about SD. I am nice to her. I encourage good healthy relationships with SO and DS. But I prefer to sit on the side lines.