To me, potty TRAINING means you are in the process of teaching a toddler to recognize the feeling of needing to go, and to respond to that feeling by getting themselves to a toilet. Training is a process. To me, potty TRAINED means your child has mastered the ability to understand their body's signals and can now use the toilet or at least let you know that they need to use the toilet on their own, and they no longer need a diaper/pull up. Accidents may still happen sometimes, but not often. If I am wrong on these definitions, please let me know.

SD22 and I did not speak for a couple of years. I still "did the right thing" and sent her invitations to BS7's bday parties those years anyway. I think she thought it was FDH doing it behind my back. At his 5th party, FDH told me as we got to the bldg., "oh, I invited SD and SSIL".

VM(Virgin Mary) messaged me yesterday and asked if I would tell her about her sister, the last baby I lost. I told her sure, and what did she want to know. She asked a few questions, and said she wished she had known because she would have been there for us. I told her I didn't even tell anyone I was pregnant because of having already had 2 miscarriages and I didn't tell anyone about baby girl for a long time because it was just too damn painful. What I didn't tell her was that she is the last person I would have wanted to tell because of how she acted the first time.

FDH just went to bed, and before he went up, he asked me to message SD22 and let her know we won't make it to her shower today. I told him that I ALREADY told her this 3 days ago, and that I don't understand why she's hounding him about going when I already told her why I wouldn't be there (his work schedule is an issue since we share a vehicle, and I have no sitter since he has to work and my mom isn't home, and I would have found a reason to not go any fucking way because I am just plain not interested in going).