So BM has made a habit of calling the skids, at our house on DH’s time, and yelling at them for things that have happened on her time at her house.

Last night BM texted DH and told him to tell SS12 to call her.

SS12 calls BM.

SS12 was on the phone with BM for a long time.

SS12 comes into the kitchen, in tears, and gives DH his phone back.

DH asks SS12 what’s wrong and SS12 starts bawling. DH hugs him and comforts him. When SS12 calms down enough to speak he tells DH that BM yelled at him for not cleaning his room (at her house).

DH tells SS12 to go take a shower to help him calm down. As soon as SS12 is in the shower DH grabs his phone and calls BM.

DH tells BM: “I don’t want to why you yelled at SS12 but SS12 is very upset, he’s a crying mess. This isn’t the first time this has happened either. What good is it to yell at the boys and discipline them over the phone when they are with me?”

BM: *crickets*

DH: “What happens when you do this is that they get upset and I have no idea why and then I have to deal with the fallout. What’s the point? There is nothing they can do while they are here with me to make things right at your house. Why make them feel bad?”

BM: *crickets*

DH: “I have never done this to them when they are with you. When something happens over here I wait until the boys are back here and address it then. Yes it takes longer to discipline but at least the boys can deal with the issue while they are here and resolve it.”

BM: “It will never happen again.”

DH: “Good.”

FINALLY! FINALLY! DH got the balls to say something to BM. This has been going on for years and it DH never had the nerve to say something to BM until yesterday when SS12 was a bawling-mess. SO happy he confronted BM.

~BettyRay