I have brought up my SS since he was 7 years old, he is now 30 and honestly! the more I see him the more I hate him.  I feel so torn right now because I love my wife and would do anything for her but as for her son, i cant honestly see us being close ever again.  I would never ask my wife to choose but what sort of a life is it going to be for her if it continues and we arent even on speaking terms, i dont want my wife feeling she has to choose.