Prior to my husband and I getting married he really wasn't spending time with his boys (like barely very very rarely) and I was trying to encourage the change.. and apparently it worked because now he gets them every other weekend because of me. But now I feel like it's biting me in the butt cause I don't feel the effort he use to put into me and maybe I'm selfish but I didn't think I would get forgotten about because of some encouragement of things you should have been doing.