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stbxDh roping another unsuspecting victim

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Submitted by Asher10 on Mon, 05/02/2011 - 1:23pm

he is dating someone exclusively and we aren't even divorced.he decided he would be "a mature adult"and tell me all about this woman as though I care and like it's something i need to know.What is it with men who cannot wait until their first marriage is over before jumping into another relationship?Now before the bashing brigade jumps on me I realize some divorces take years before they're final but keep in mind for my situation we haven't even been apart for sixth months yet.If someone cannot wait til the divorce papers are signed at LEAST wait a year or 6months at the minimum.And what is

Life without the blend

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Submitted by Asher10 on Thu, 04/14/2011 - 9:00am

I have to say while I miss having DAH around I am really adjusting well to life without the dramatics that come along with the stepfamily situation.I filed an RO against BM because she really wouldn't leave me alone.In one message she told me she is going to keep her eye on me for DAH in case i decide to start having men in his house.WTF?!This woman is looney.DAH has retained an attorney so he hasn't been communicating anything to me unless it's through the lawyer thank goodness.SD thought it would be cool to drop by my house over the weekend to visit with me.I told her she needed to leave

In times of crisis DAH turns to BM

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Submitted by Asher10 on Tue, 04/05/2011 - 7:33am

Things have been stressful for me lately of course.Now I have to learn that DAH is leaning on BM for support during our separation.I had to hear it from BM herself in a voicemail."I wanted to call to give my sympathies about your marriage failing.Hopefully you have a good support network.I know DAH has been here so often it feels like he has moved in sometimes!I guess he needs a shoulder to lean against while all this unpleasantness works itself through.well have a great night! ta!"

Lawyers,mediation,and judges OH MY

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Submitted by Asher10 on Thu, 03/31/2011 - 8:17am

I'm pushing DAH to go with me on the choice for mediation rather than an ugly court divorce.I just gave attorney an itemized list of the contents in the house.doing that list was so much fun.Insert sarcasm there.Now the goal is to separate these things in a series of mediation meetings with a neutral mediator,DAH,and me.Our lawyers can be present as well to advise us on things that may potentially screw us.I can tell already this will be a slow process.DAH doesn't want to get the ball rolling as quickly as I do of course.He is dragging his feet on finding an attorney and will likely shit hi

Why are MY needs selfish just because you have offspring??

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Submitted by Asher10 on Tue, 03/29/2011 - 10:49am

Why does not having a rugrat germbucket baby suddenly mean that anything i require in a marriage makes me a selfish bitch?!Does childfree equal selfish woman???DAH asks me what I needed that i didn't get from this marriage.I tell him I needed someone to stand with me not in front of me.I needed someone to help me improve our lives rather than doing things to destroy it.I needed him to try and correct the wrongs that were being committed against me rather than brushing it into the corner and forgetting about it.I needed him to stop putting a child above his marriage because that's exactly wh

To my MIL

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Submitted by Asher10 on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 1:25pm

Mil you’re short like a troll.you make children cry when you’re out for a stroll.
Mil with breath like a dragon.here’s my donation:toothpaste and floss in a giant red wagon.
Dear Mil I love those fake platinum curls.you certainly aren’t blending in with the girls.
Mother of my husband your cruelty knows no end.If I were on facebook you’d not be my friend.
Mil painted like a cheap dirty whore.Careful on those platforms before your skanky ass ends up on the floor.

That’s all I’ve got so far

Feeling like a bully

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Submitted by Asher10 on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 8:49am

I feel like i want to bully MIL,DAH,SD,and BM.I want to write a letter to each of them just blasting them for everything they've ever said or done to me that wasn't nice.I want to be the bully for once.I feel pretty good today.I slept a little bit last night and turned my phone off for the rest of the day and weekend.I'm not taking any calls from ANYONE.I'm not working and I'm not going to mourn DAH at all.I can get through this.I will sit on my bottom in my pajamas.I will gain at least 5 pounds eating nothing but ice cream,oreo cookies,and chips.I will call these 5 pounds "curves" and I wi

here but not really here.

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Submitted by Asher10 on Thu, 03/24/2011 - 9:17am

If I could make changes to how i lived life i wouldn't have taken a second glance at him after knowing he had a child and an ex wife.I wouldn't have let the curl of his hair or the sparkle in his eyes lead me down a path i already knew was ripe with rotten attitudes and competition.I wouldn't have been turned on by his round butt and his lean frame.I wouldn't have been seduced by the sweet words falling from his beautiful mouth.Had I known then what I know now I would have walked away to meet the man I cancelled on to meet DAH.These men should have to take a lie detector test given by curre

So far so good.aside from the swollen eyes and red face

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Submitted by Asher10 on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 7:32am

I'm still alive.that's all i can say for how i feel.thankfully i have not heard from sd and bm has decided it is wise to leave me alone.my mil did call though.she was surprisingly supportive.she told me that she too believes by the details DAH(thx to whomever provided that great nickname)gave her that sd most certainly did this on purpose.But of course she had to defend sd in the same breath and said it sounds like bm is influencing her and it really isn't her fault.she asked if there was anything she could do to help and she told me she doesn't want DAH and me to split up.i told her i appr

"You can't ban my daughter from our home"

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Submitted by Asher10 on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 8:11am

Like hell I can't.Dh and I fought all weekend.He went from being understanding to being like the rest of the men being complained about on this site.When he realized I was serious about never letting sd in our home again it turned ugly.He told me it isn't fair of me to have him choose between his daugher and me.I told him he doesn't have to choose and he can visit her outside of our house.He told me i was being ridiculous and overreacting over an unfinished piece of clay.At that point I told him it's obvious he doesn't respect me and he doesn't respect my work either.He tried to deny it of

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