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Was I wrong???

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I haven't been on here since I was a step-mom and now divorced. I figured all my Step Friends can tell me what I did wrong. Went over to new BF's house Sat night. He has a boy 12 and girl 10. It was actually third time around kids, second time at his house. I got there around 4:45 and he was rushing around picking things up and then had to jump in the shower for all of us to make mass. (I'm not even Catholic) Girl 10 was so rude. She sat at table eating cereal and wouldn't even look at me. I tried to talk to her but she completely ignored me. Church was fine.

Need Advice

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I used to be a step-mom and used this site a lot. Now I am a divorced mom and didn't know where else to turn for some advice or knowlege. I figured the majority of readers probably can help me with this issue. I have a 14 month old that I have physical custody of. Divorce was final Oct. Daughter who is only 14 months old has been going to the daycare (actually called learning center) under my care since August and she loves it there. The staff loves her and she has even moved up to a "toddler" room. Ex husband got visitation every other week from THURS pm until Sunday pm.

Divorce help fast

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This probably should go into the legal forum but I want as much help as possible. Husband and I are divorcing after 3 years. We now have a 10 month old together which I have temporary custody of and he has very limited visitation. He has a 8 year old from previous marriage that was with us every other week. I just found out that husband is now going to claim I was abusive to his son and his son was afraid of me. I took care of his son every summer since I was a teacher, school holidays. Got kid ready for school every morning, rushed home after school to get him off bus.

SS and divorcing his Dad

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Husband and I are divorcing after only 3.5 years of marriage. Divorce will be final the end of May and we have a 8 month old together and he has an 8 year old from previous marriage. I currently have possession of "his house" he built for his first wife and son. I was SS true care giver for the three years. Got kid ready for school, I am off work all summer SS and I went to the pool , buy him his clothes etc, take him and friends places... Lately when Dad has been coming to get daughter for his visitation he has had SS with him.

going through divorce

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I am currently going through a divorce with a'hole husband. We have a 6 month old. Yes only 6 months!!!! I got temp physical care of child with him have very little visitation. Every other weekend from 9 to 6 on Sat, Sun and every Wed from 5-8. I am sticking by the order 100percent. Last week I got a couple of emails from him saying his work schedule will change and he will be working extended hours. He would like to arrange something that "will benefit" our daughter. I flatly replied, "you have given me no specifics as to how this affects your court order visitation."

Divorce and 4 month old

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My marriage turned bad fast and now I am just starting the process of a divorce. We have a four month old. As of right now husband agreed for me to have temp physical placement of 4 month old. I set the standards of every other weekend from 9am to 6pm Sat and Sun and one night a week from 5-8pm with no over night stays. I want to continue this arrangement for at least the first 4 years of her life. Has anyone heard of this happening or have any knowledge of this. If I have to get ugly I will and bring up the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and won't admit it.

SS Dad and New Baby

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I had a baby in August. SS of 7 is with us every other week for a full week. In the beginning SS was real excited about her and would give her attention and be concerned of her needs. Lately the tables have turned. SS has gotten real needy. I understand that every kid probably goes through this phase but now it is rubing off on Dad. yesterday SS was over the top. Dad had to get his full attention. And Dad gave it. I am yet to hear, Not now, baby needs fed. Or baby needs diaper changed, you get the picture. Whatever SS needed, wanted, etc....Dad was right there to give it.

BM and telephone

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I have repeatedly asked my H that if ex/MB wants to talk with SS that she call the home phone. Ex/BM always calls my H cell phone. The other night BM was dropping off SS and told SS she would call him the next day to see how a party went. I just told her as she was walking out the door to call the home phone. She stopped dead in her tracks, turned aropund, and asked my why. I basically told her that if she wants to talk to her son she can call the home phone and there was no need for her to call my husband's cell.

Insurance and BM Need Advice fast

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Need help on how to deal with insurance and BM. I just had my first child last week. (Everything is fine and she is beautiful) As of right now we met our deductible for family by all the DR. appts, tests, and delivery. Out of pocket we probably are going to have to pay over $1000. Step son just went in yesterday for surgery on his throat. Now all SS's medical bills will be paid since WE or I met the deductible. His mother will not have to fork over a dime. If it wasn't for us already paying out of our pocket for this baby she would be paying half a deductible.

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