I had a baby in August. SS of 7 is with us every other week for a full week. In the beginning SS was real excited about her and would give her attention and be concerned of her needs. Lately the tables have turned. SS has gotten real needy. I understand that every kid probably goes through this phase but now it is rubing off on Dad. yesterday SS was over the top. Dad had to get his full attention. And Dad gave it. I am yet to hear, Not now, baby needs fed. Or baby needs diaper changed, you get the picture. Whatever SS needed, wanted, etc....Dad was right there to give it. It was pretty much baby and me AND me doing it all for baby until SS went to bed. It was so bad that I was even in Baby's room rocking her, Dad came in and it ended up being SS in Dad's arms on the floor. When I finally told Dad to get SS to bed so baby can fall asleep. SS got up kissed Dad and nothing to baby and I. I said something tonight to husband of SS's behavior and of course he defended him and didn't see any of it. I'll be damned if I will let this continue every week. It has gone as far as Dad signed up SS for a wrestling tournament on a day that he was suppose to be with Mom. Husband came home from wrestling practice and asked what we had going on the 28th. I reminded him of baby's Dr. appointment that was even written in his planner. I got the remark that I want son to do this tournament and I already cleared it with his Mom. (Believe I have a entire different blog about how Dad now makes plans with BM and then tells me later but like I said that is a whole different blog) Dad is not willing to miss Dr. appointment and he wanted me to see if I can change it. Well i can't, appointments are booked (her appointment was made 2 months ago)specifically on a time Dad could be there too. I then suggested for Dad to leave tournament (Mom will be there to watch son) and his response was, "If son gets award, I want to be there." Dad hasn't made one appointment yet. BUT made every one of son's.
I understand you can get men to see this, especially when it is me critizing son's behavior. But also I will not let this continue. Any thoughts??????