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When your SO goes on and on (and on) about how special their snowflake is...

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... how do you keep a smile on your face when deep down you know said child is less than remarkable?

Personally, I drink a lot, roll my eyes hard and practice saying things like “oh isn’t that wonderful”, “of course dear” and “bless her heart”. Does anyone else have any good tips to keep from gagging when their husband or wife loudly proclaims their child to be the next “doctor-lawyer-astronaut-president-super model with the heart of Mother Teresa”?

HS Online Classes and other things

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SD (who hopes to get into one of the most elite colleges in the country.... grades however make that highly unlikely) casually informed us that she skips her first period online class to go to Starbucks with her friend but that is ok “because it’s online”. Also that she will “probably need to retake the SAT” even though she supposedly did “SO WELL” on it the first time she took it? :? My husband isn’t concerned about any of this but I am because she made the comment that she “will probably end up living with (her) dad” because her mom “always starts” with her. HELLNO.

Lessons from a BM: Always check references

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Every now and then I find chestnuts of wisdom in my dealings with BM. One of the most memorable: always check references. I learned this not from my BM, but from another BM that I know of. This woman lied to her DH during their entire marriage about having a masters degree in accounting (when in reality all she has is a 2-year book keeping degree). In any event the truth came out during their divorce and the husband was shocked. How is this possible? How can you be married for a decade and cover something like this up? Do employers really not check references these days?

OT - What do you believe happens after death?

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This past weekend was hard for me. I had to put my very elderly cat to sleep. Even though it just about broke my heart, I stayed with her through the euthanasia. I didn't want her to be alone in her final moments. Now it feels as though there is a void inside me. I think the older I get the harder it is to accept death and loss. I've been thinking a lot about how everyone has a different belief about what happens when we die and I can honestly say that the thought of "nothing" terrifies me. The idea that I will never see my loved ones again is perhaps my greatest fear.

SD is leaving .... now DH wants to put the kibosh on spending...

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Does anyone else deal with their husband or significant other being Mr. Moneybags while the skids are around, sparing no expense to make sure their snowflakes have the best visitation, only to turn around and become Mr. Cheapo when they leave? I finally called my DH out on it today

Sorry Blog Hog.... SD hates our dog

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My SD hates our 5 month old puppy. She complains that he is "annoying" and "stupid" (her favorite, most used word). She is with us for the summer and thankfully leaving in less than two weeks. He is not a bad dog. He is a low energy breed and doesn't make a sound in his crate. We put his crate in her room because most of the time it's just my husband and I and we really do not have much room.

What to say to a sore loser?

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What is the best way to teach a 17 yr old about winning and losing at games? When my SD is winning at a game she is very smug and cocky (even calling out other players as "dumb" or happily pointing out how awful they are doing) but if she is losing, look out! She had a mini tantrum over the weekend in front of DH's sister and brother-in-law because she was in last place during a game we were playing. I tried to gently remind her that it is only a game and the point is to have fun but she ignored me and purposely messed up the rest of the game for everybody.