Hello,

To put it mildly, I haven't been well lately and I've been working from home.  I've ordered lunch from Grubhub a couple of times throughout the last couple of months.  But today it really hit me that something seems really weird.  

I got married to my wife when my stepson was 12 year old. He didn't seem to care that his mom was marrying another woman. However he kept his distance. He rarely said hi or hello to me at home. Soon that behavior bled into the way he treated his mom. He clearly preferred to be at his dad's place. He is a 27 year old phd student in biophyiscs/ biochemistry. When ever he gets free time he always visits his dad. He only sees his mom once a year and he is only one state away, yet he has been at his dad's place four times yearly. Last Thursday was my wife's birthday.

I lost my patience with trying to get DH and Guzzlord in line on the dish situation.  Like, I realize it sucks this place doesn't have a dishwasher, but it's not hard to do if you keep up with them and I feel like Guzzlord won't die from overexertion without one.  I decided for now I'll do it myself and think of something Guzzlord can't screw up that's still helpful to his dad and I.  I feel like there's some weaponized incompetence at play here. 

I will start by giving you my background. I have been a stepparent for 17 years, all 3 boys, now 24, 21, 19.  There was a 3 year separation from 2009 to 2012. Married officially in 2014, have 2 children together 12, 8.  Not long after meeting my spouse I was inserted into the boys' lives. I was 21, so it was scary and exciting and I had no idea what hornets nest I had just got myself into.  Over the years we have fought repeatedly because of his sons. They caused so many issues that my H left me 6 weeks after I had our son.

I'm in dire need of a place to vent.  Also, does anyone know the protocol if your SS is just 18 as far as whether he's considered an adult or teenage step at this stage?  

Well...  my bf's mom was fit to be tied at her son.  She was angry that he took her dresser and gave it to his son and stuck a great big armoire filled with yet even more of his clothes he doesn't wear in her room.  She also was pissed he was cleaning his room yet again.  Even at 95 yo, and with dementia, grandma has told me the kid needs to clean his own room and get a job. This time the excuse is because the Little Prince has been working 6 whole days!  Well he did get his special shirts today for the assistant manager's position after all. This deserves a reward.

I was gobsmacked to find out my bf's 24 yo son suddenly got a job *shok* I have no idea what lit a fire under his ass.  He was MIA for 2+ days, but I wasn't complaining.  The house had a calmer feel and I was basking in it.  Apparently his mom helped him look online for a job.  He got up on time and went.  With the way things are they hired him on the spot at the restaurant, even without any work history.  They said he'd make $20./hr as a waiter, I don't buy that, but Idgara as long as he got one.