Those who have followed along so far will remember that DH's ex sent the police to our house for a wellness check, after he didn't attend SS's engagement party. Since then, we've obtained a copy of the police report and confirmed that she out right lied to the police.

My DH and I are both professionals and make decent salaries, and over time I've been the majority breadwinner and supported the home when DH was struggling with child support court cases. DH is 22 years older than me and oldest SS is 10 years younger than me. 
 

We are now earning enough to plan around tax and asset investments and given a never ending saga with the older SS, who firmly believes the world owes him a living and he plans to "inherit" and be "rich" from his father, the topic of wills came up. 
 

He's not attending the engagement party. His family and future exDIL are losing their minds. He's turned off his phone and refusing to engage with any of them.

Today I texted SS30 and let him know how sad we (my kids and I) are about missing his engagement party. And then I sat on pins and needles, waiting for his reply. And he shocked me. He said that he was sad that we weren't coming but that he "gets it". He said hd knows that the rift in the family is getting worse, rather than better, and that it's very upsetting. (With no hint of blame tossed in my direction!). He said that "for the record" he wants me and my kids to be a part of important events in his life but that I should do what's best for me and my kids. 

This past March, after a year of ostracism from my DH's family, he and I cut out everyone but SS30. I blocked them from all forms of communication. DH hasn't blocked, but he "unfriended" an aunt who is a key player in the family (aka Jonestown). He told his mother, another key player, that he was very angry with her and that their relationship will probably never be the same. No one other than his uncle (sibling of MIL and the aunt) has tried to contact him. It was a huge weight off of my shoulders and off of our marriage.

My SS and his SO are having an engagement party in a couple of weeks. DH and I haven't attended any of his family functions over the past year. SS's SO called DH and asked if we were available on a particular date, without saying why. He said "yes" and now we have no good excuse to not go. And of course DH wants to go. It's his son. We already missed SS's housewarming gathering because we were conveniently out of town, and it was very painful for DH to see pictures all over fb of his disappointing family members gathered at SS's house and not him.

Hello Steptalk   

Hello,

To put it mildly, I haven't been well lately and I've been working from home.  I've ordered lunch from Grubhub a couple of times throughout the last couple of months.  But today it really hit me that something seems really weird.  

Tuesday, I canceled my Spotify family plan and just kept the single-person premium for myself.  DH never uses Spotify and doesn't care, and Guzzlord does use it fairly often but honestly just f him, he contributes nothing to the family, community, or world, so he can legit deal with a few ads.  Everything's getting more expensive, I'm in cutting costs, growing my own veggies and herbs, clipping coupons, and ramping up the savings mode.  He'll be fine.