I will start by giving you my background. I have been a stepparent for 17 years, all 3 boys, now 24, 21, 19.  There was a 3 year separation from 2009 to 2012. Married officially in 2014, have 2 children together 12, 8.  Not long after meeting my spouse I was inserted into the boys' lives. I was 21, so it was scary and exciting and I had no idea what hornets nest I had just got myself into.  Over the years we have fought repeatedly because of his sons. They caused so many issues that my H left me 6 weeks after I had our son.

I'm in dire need of a place to vent.  Also, does anyone know the protocol if your SS is just 18 as far as whether he's considered an adult or teenage step at this stage?  

Well...  my bf's mom was fit to be tied at her son.  She was angry that he took her dresser and gave it to his son and stuck a great big armoire filled with yet even more of his clothes he doesn't wear in her room.  She also was pissed he was cleaning his room yet again.  Even at 95 yo, and with dementia, grandma has told me the kid needs to clean his own room and get a job. This time the excuse is because the Little Prince has been working 6 whole days!  Well he did get his special shirts today for the assistant manager's position after all. This deserves a reward.

I was gobsmacked to find out my bf's 24 yo son suddenly got a job *shok* I have no idea what lit a fire under his ass.  He was MIA for 2+ days, but I wasn't complaining.  The house had a calmer feel and I was basking in it.  Apparently his mom helped him look online for a job.  He got up on time and went.  With the way things are they hired him on the spot at the restaurant, even without any work history.  They said he'd make $20./hr as a waiter, I don't buy that, but Idgara as long as he got one.