I'm not really sure how to take parts of this. But in an odd way I guess I feel better after what BF said.

I told DH that I am going to be moving out for a few days, weeks, or more. He is trying his best to assure me that he will change and put the marriage first. But we are to the point that the only conversation we have is about SD-17 and her pregnancy. I don't think I could have a discussion without her being brought up....in fact when I asked him what he wanted for the two of us (him and me) he told me he wanted his daughter to grow up and learn to take care of herself.....says it all don't it.

I am usually the one who helps Princess do her homework. She is nearing the end of her fourth grade year. I have always suspected that Princess has ADD but the school has never caught it so I'm probably wrong. She attends a public school in Texas....here's the deal...she has a hard time with reading and comprehension and still reads aloud, does not know how to write in cursive, can't add and subtract without counting on fingers, and doesn't know her timetables yet. She makes the A-B honor roll most of the time so it isn't her not doing her work or failing tests.

Yesterday was payday. I only get paid once a month. My check was lower than I estimated (and I always guess low to give myself a little cushion). After paying bills, and buying a grocery store gift card (we've done this for a couple years now...ensures we ALWAYS have food money), and dog food, we only have $111.00 left. I don't know how we're going to make it through the month. There's NEVER been this little money left for the month. NEVER. I already had my student loans deferred for a few months and I'm not paying Hubby's child support. I don't know what we're going to do.

Just as a kinda tally,

1. Do you get along with BM?
2. Do you buy her a gift from the skids for holidays?
3. Would you expect your bio children to visit with their step/half siblings at Bms house for a holiday?

1. Kinda, and its getting better.
2. For some of the holidays we will get her something small and she will do the same for us.
3. Never, but Dh does not agree.

My Dh, whether he admits it or not, has some guilt issues when it comes to his daughter. He is no where near as bad as some, but I still get hurt or annoyed by his actions. Here are a few examples:

Me and FDh had a great 2 1/2 hour chat about boundaries last night. I think that switch that turned off when he went drinking with Bm must have been switched back on yesterday because his brain was back to being connected properly to his mouth.

One issue that I noticed that has kind of put me on guard is the fact that as soon as I mentioned that our kids with not be put in undesirable situations to make things easier for his relationship with bm, and/or visitation he started to get really defensive.

Thank you to the comments and support yesterday about my BF who was taking advantage of me.

We got another "collection" call asking if we were related to BM or BM'sH. Heck no---operater said her research showed DH was related to BM--I advise operator if BM told her that, we would get a restraining order to stop that nonsense. DH and BM divorced over 12 years now. Obviously BM and BM's H just don't tell their creditors any new info.

Bugs me. I am a responsible adult. If I take a loan, I pay it. I don't run for the hills and make it so the responsible people get hight interest to pay for deadbeats. I gave the operator EVERY phone # they got---land line, 2 cell phones.

Those of you who have read my other blogs know I am dealing with a major mess. Newly married my SD-17 got pregnant on purpose to trap a boy. She is manipulative, a liar, a theif and more. Discussing her attitude, rudeness and lack of responsibility - she told me (in front of her father) she was not raised to do that. Sadly, DH didn't voice a disagreement.

I am a strong willed, disciplined person. I raised two BSs on my own. Both are in college. They were raised to be helpful, respectful and responsible. I expect the same from her.