Im so happy, Im in love with the man who always puts me first because there is no kids from previous relationship and BM. Im truly happy I got out of my previous situation.

My husband and I won full custody of his daughter 4 years ago. This was no easy fight and cost $1,000.'s. We thought we were doing the right thing. She told us so many horrible things and that she needed out. We bought hook line and sinker. So, found out she is good at lying and decieving. I quit my job when we brought her home. I was the primary bread winner. We decided to make the sacarice and focus on her full time because she needed it. She seemed lost. Turned out to be an act. She just wanted to see a boy her mother disapproved of.

I am feeling guilty this am. My DH got a call from BM that SS13 had a seizure this morning and she was taking him to the ER. Of course DH is going. Should I have gone with him to support him? I know Bm's boyfriend is there and she is there... I did not want to go to be honest. What can I do really? Stand around and wait for testng. I just called him, they are going to do a CT scan with contrast because he has pain on his right side... they drew a lot of blood..
I am researching things on line here and I did not go back to bed.. but should I have gone with him
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Wrote by Melanie Foster

Lord, help me to be a good stepmother… give me the patience of a saint, the strength of an ox, and the skin of a rhinoceros.

I treat the fsd's fairly. I try to do things with them like play-doh, reading, coloring, painting nails...

I try NOT to show favortism but fsd5 and I really get along well. She doesn't remember me not being around. She always sits on my lap...she always wants to play - she rarely gives me a problem unless she is tired (like most kids do and they get grumpy). She is just a very simple little girl so of course I tend to lean toward her.

This is my first post so im not quite sure how this thing works but i dont know what else to do.

OK, even I have to admit that this is a pretty lame way to start off a blog....my stepdaughter hates me.....

I guess what really bothers me is that she went from a cute little girl to a 17 yr.old wretch...sigh... The problems we have been having (she and I) started when she was about 9/10 yrs. old. Lying, stealing, starting trouble between her siblings and my boyfriend and I. My BF has kind of a blind spot with her because she's the only girl out of our 7 kid brood. He hates dealing with drama and would rather just ignore the situation.

Okay, I hope I'm not the only one that has this same problem! It's really childish, but BM is coming over early to pk up ss10 b/c they have plans in town and usually pk up is at grandma's....I don't even want her near or in my apartment after what happened to my van last wknd.

Okay, so this was the second visit with SS soon to be 9, with both sets of parents. We had already met the other parents once before that for a total of 3 times. SS9 has already expressed that he wants to go to our house and spend the night with us. He has adjusted extremely well and is already attached to us. He says he doesn't want us to ever leave him! So sweet! Anyway, BM is now scheduling another group visit, or might I say supervised visit with them. How many more supervised visits are necessary?????? I mean, it is hard enough for FH to be civil and be in the same room with BM.

My DH and I decided before we got married that we didn't want any Bkids. He said it was because he didn't want to "start over" (SS was 10, now 13) and I never really felt that "motherly urge". But now I'm wondering if that is really the reason. At that point, I had already lived with DH and SS for 3 years, and my feelings haven't changed, still don't want Bkids, but I'm just thinking that maybe it's because of all the struggle I've had with SS. Has anyone else made this decision about Bkids because of the situation with Skids?