I hope that everyone is staying strong today. My ups and downs with my youngest daughter is testing my strengh daily. But I love myself and who I am. We have to remind ourselves that we can not let someone else change who we are, unless we let them.

I am going to fight to take back who I was, and be better person, mom and wife! Good luck to eveyrone in this ongoing battle to be appreciated and loved as moms and stepmoms.

This past weekend I made my first attempts at being more "disengaged". Honestly at the time I didn't really know when I made the choice to step back from the step parenting role, I had begun to do this thing called "disengaging". I'm kinda new to this world and the lingo, can you tell?

I have a huge project I'm dealing with at work and it has got me stressed all to hell. Pretty sure my hair is falling out thanks to it I just need some pick me ups! Anyone got a funny joke or story to share?

SD11 started bringing her cell phone regularly since New Years. DH said ok to it then so that she can wish her friends Happy New Year, now it's attached to her with super glue.

I need to vent, I feel so spied on. I'm trying so hard not to vent to DH because he is so stressed out with other things.

Does anyone know if facebook inbox messages can be used in court?

Wondering if someone is knowingly telling lies on a third party - or saying they will not follow a court order - or basically bashing and lying about the situation - and planning evil things - that are documented in facebook inbox messages - can these be used in court - say in like a custody case.

I know pictures can be used.... I am thinking wall posts can be used.... but how about inbox messages?

BM has blocked yet another weekend visitation. DH gets 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends. He has not seen SD since the last weekend in January.

I guess since lawyer sent a letter stating he was complete with that portion of the court case - that BM assumes we no longer have a lawyer and she can act out and do whatever she wants now........

Im so happy, Im in love with the man who always puts me first because there is no kids from previous relationship and BM. Im truly happy I got out of my previous situation.

My husband and I won full custody of his daughter 4 years ago. This was no easy fight and cost $1,000.'s. We thought we were doing the right thing. She told us so many horrible things and that she needed out. We bought hook line and sinker. So, found out she is good at lying and decieving. I quit my job when we brought her home. I was the primary bread winner. We decided to make the sacarice and focus on her full time because she needed it. She seemed lost. Turned out to be an act. She just wanted to see a boy her mother disapproved of.

I am feeling guilty this am. My DH got a call from BM that SS13 had a seizure this morning and she was taking him to the ER. Of course DH is going. Should I have gone with him to support him? I know Bm's boyfriend is there and she is there... I did not want to go to be honest. What can I do really? Stand around and wait for testng. I just called him, they are going to do a CT scan with contrast because he has pain on his right side... they drew a lot of blood..
I am researching things on line here and I did not go back to bed.. but should I have gone with him
?

Wrote by Melanie Foster

Lord, help me to be a good stepmother… give me the patience of a saint, the strength of an ox, and the skin of a rhinoceros.