My husband and I won full custody of his daughter 4 years ago. This was no easy fight and cost $1,000.'s. We thought we were doing the right thing. She told us so many horrible things and that she needed out. We bought hook line and sinker. So, found out she is good at lying and decieving. I quit my job when we brought her home. I was the primary bread winner. We decided to make the sacarice and focus on her full time because she needed it. She seemed lost. Turned out to be an act. She just wanted to see a boy her mother disapproved of. We got her involved in activities, were there every game, practice, tournament. Encourged her, stayed on top of grades. (she usually fails most classes out of laziness) I drug her thru school. We are 12 weeks away from graduation. She has made my house a living miserable place. Tension, lies, screaming. No respect for me. The truth is I can't wait for her to move out in May when she finishes school. That was her choice. Not ours. Her mother would not talk to her for over a year after she came to live with us. I would call her and beg, telling her I would bring SD anywhere to see her. (mom's current and controling husband banned bm from seeing her) Yeah, I know how screwed up that is. But we tried to foster an atmosphere of support and love. She slowly tore the family down. Very long story and many many incidents. Bottom line, live with us - live my the rules, no more pot, no dating boy that has 2 dui's, hits his mother and does drugs. Oh yeah, and he is her 2nd cousin! They hooked up when BM finally welcomed sd back to visit her mom. We have beening fighting tooth and nail since. She had her mother call here tonight and say she wanted to stay there. Blow off the 12 years of school, 12 weeks away from getting the diploma she has earned. All because her mom will let her date this boy and we won't. I can't explain the hurt, anger and disappointment. I can't hardly look at my husband because I'm scared he blames me. I treated her like I would have treated my own. I just didnt take her crap and I caught her in lie after lie. She could never figure out how I knew what she was up to. Having left my very successful career, I invested my time and engery into her. I just wish it had stayed positive instead of having to watch like a hawk to keep her out of trouble. I am so angry that she is throwing everything away, making me the bad guy. I'm also relieved its over. I feel like the bottom of scum for feeling releif. Does this make me horrible. I need honest feedback and advice.