I found this and wanted to share... for anyone at their true wits end for kids / skids that may be into more trouble than they can handle.

I just wanted to post this. I don't know how much it costs, or if anyone is interested.. But I am posting it here for any Step parent or parent who may need the info...

These issues all of us deal with related to step/blended/whatever you call them families are so complex!
I've posted many times about my FH's guilt parenting, this notion of child-centeredness that means SS has always gotten all the attention he wants, been the total focus, gotten whatever experiences/lessons/vacations/etc. he wants from FH...without giving back anything, being responsible for anything, etc. He is 10.5 and doesn't really even know how to pour himself a bowl of cereal and lies in bed on the weekends until FH makes him breakfast and calls him to come eat it.

My husband has a daughter who have been living w/his mother for the past two years. When I met my husband, he told me that he didnt think he was the girl's father. His mother have been there for the child since day one; the girl's mother told my husband that he wasnt the child's father. Then she stated she said that b she was mad, every time she gets upset she say he's not the girls father. But my husband's mother is so attach to the girl tat nothing else matters.

After days of DH and I being on SS25's ass about not having a job and basically being a lazy bum, I think ss25 got the hint that I'm tired of seeing his lazy ass lounging around my house. I called him around noon on Friday (I had to call about ten times before he finally picked up the phone, because he was still in bed) and told him that when DH and I got home from work Friday night, SS25 would be cleaning the bathroom CORRECTLY, with my supervision. I knew he did not want to do this, and I figured he would just leave the house to avoid the chore all together. And I was right.

I hope that everyone is staying strong today. My ups and downs with my youngest daughter is testing my strengh daily. But I love myself and who I am. We have to remind ourselves that we can not let someone else change who we are, unless we let them.

I am going to fight to take back who I was, and be better person, mom and wife! Good luck to eveyrone in this ongoing battle to be appreciated and loved as moms and stepmoms.

This past weekend I made my first attempts at being more "disengaged". Honestly at the time I didn't really know when I made the choice to step back from the step parenting role, I had begun to do this thing called "disengaging". I'm kinda new to this world and the lingo, can you tell?

I have a huge project I'm dealing with at work and it has got me stressed all to hell. Pretty sure my hair is falling out thanks to it I just need some pick me ups! Anyone got a funny joke or story to share?

SD11 started bringing her cell phone regularly since New Years. DH said ok to it then so that she can wish her friends Happy New Year, now it's attached to her with super glue.

I need to vent, I feel so spied on. I'm trying so hard not to vent to DH because he is so stressed out with other things.

Does anyone know if facebook inbox messages can be used in court?

Wondering if someone is knowingly telling lies on a third party - or saying they will not follow a court order - or basically bashing and lying about the situation - and planning evil things - that are documented in facebook inbox messages - can these be used in court - say in like a custody case.

I know pictures can be used.... I am thinking wall posts can be used.... but how about inbox messages?

BM has blocked yet another weekend visitation. DH gets 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends. He has not seen SD since the last weekend in January.

I guess since lawyer sent a letter stating he was complete with that portion of the court case - that BM assumes we no longer have a lawyer and she can act out and do whatever she wants now........