Dennis Prayer has a theory. ...

That you should steer clear of women who don't have at least one very close friend.

He said it's because if they don't they aren't good at relationships.

Just thinking about this in relation to the bm's...do they have at least one really close friend?

Mine has friends but none that I would call close.

Summer vacation is coming up. I have been overcome with guilt because I don't know if I can include SS12 or not. I am going home for a family reunion this summer, it's a big deal, and it could be a 2-3 day drive from central Canada to the most easterly point! Or a very expensive trip for 4 on a plane with car rental once we arrive. But with just three of us on the plane, the costs go way down....DH can't contribute because with CS and the other expenses like braces, tutoring, daycamp, etc he has nothing left. I pay all expenses for my daughter's daycare and expenses.

This is going to be long, so I apologize in advance!
I think that, so many times in life, we'll find ourselves in situations where we'll wonder, "how in the heck did it get this bad?" or "when will this end?" or "who's to blame here?"
I know that I have asked myself these questions to myself several times throughout my life, though I will say that I have asked myself those questions to myself more during my career as a SM than I have at any other time in my life.

I need support from oldschool step-moms. I rasied my step-son from childhood alone with his dad. His bio-mom not present at all. He has now reconnected with her. Failing to speak to me or my husband re:the egg donor. Leaving me to feel regret. I feel as though he just wiped his feet on my heart. I totally feel as though he's my son. He is now a adult & I know this is his choice. Because she was always absent I never expected this to happen. How can I start to get over the anger and feelings of shutting him out now forever for fear of being hurt again.

OK, the stress is really getting to me on this whole 15yr old prego...I was searching about increase/decrease, etc. in child support because of it and ran into this "Act"...which basically states that because parents are liable financially for their children, if their minor-mother child applies for TANF (welfare), etc. the state goes after the father of the minor-mother, the mother of the minor-mother, and the parent's of the minor father in order to ensure "financial support" for the baby...are you kidding me?

I have been reading blogs and I am curious, it just seems to me that people who live in the USA have more financial problems with a divorce than those who live in Cananda. I believe ther is quite a difference between the 2 countries divorce laws where support payments are concerened.

Watch your 'Thoughts,' they become words.
Watch your 'Words,' they become actions.
Watch your 'Actions,' they become habits.
Watch your 'Habits,' they become character.
Watch your 'Character,' for it becomes your Destiny.

This was sent to me in an email as a Feng Shui horoscope. I thought it was particularly fitting for this site!

... it's not going to get any better. So what am I willing to give up? What do I have to let go of to be willing to make it work? A clean house? Skids who do what they're asked?

I'm tired. I don't want to keep asking myself if this is worth it. I've invested over 12 years of my life. We have a son. I don't feel like I can just walk away. I just want to be happy. So what do I have to give up to be happy?

Hello everyone,
I got introduced to this pg by a co-worker who's a SM like me...
It was really interesting seeing all the blogs in this pg because i can relate to many of the feelings other stepparents go trough. but I have a concern on my own... I hope someone can help me out.

He wants me to treat R as if he was my own. But then he doesn't want my input on how to raise him.

So how exactly do I go about doing that? It makes no sense to me.

If I were to treat R as if he were my own, then things would be very different in this house. BUT I CAN'T and any attempt that I make toward that "goal" is shot down immediately.