I don't mind getting the kids on the days we are not supposed to have them - and adjusting the schedule if they have bday parties BUT what if we have plans?

I don't mean to offend anyone but WOW! I don't know how anyone can make it with a divorce in the USA!! I live in Canada, and yes we may have high tax rate but, your laws are soo crazy I don't know how you live! First of all you have your health insurance, that is soo expensive, then yours laws regarding something soo universal as families differ so much not only from state to state but from county to county, I just think that a standardized set of laws for the whole country would help out more parents. I totally think you guys need medicare!

I met with my counselor Friday. Loghead couldn't get off work, so he missed again. The doc and I discussed the events of my life since my last visit in January. She was proud of the progress I made, and wanted me to stick with my mantra, my disengagement and my happy journal. (She has me journal once a day where I have to list at least one positive thing of the day.)

I told her about Loghead telling me in an argument that he thought I should take Gibby and leave. I told her about how when they boys fought that night, he'd asked me "What did you do?"

I posted things this week I shouldn't have. I let my emotions get the best of me in all this whirlwind of the life I thought I had falling apart. I usually am level headed and rational, but not right now.

I shouldn't have posted, but I was desperate for support, since my main source, my once proclaimed "shoulder to lean on, rock on which I rest" has decided I am holding him back from his life's happiness.

When I never could have envisioned my life happiness without him prior to this.

OK all,
While posting advice to someone else (not sure how great my advice is since you guys have read my posts) But while posting about what she could be doing on the weekends I came up with some great ideas:

I think one of the hardest things to come to terms with since gaining a child to live with who is my husband's son every weekend is that my quiet, private life is shot to hell. No longer can anything that happens in our house, either minor or major, stay between our walls. As long as my husband's son is around, he will blabber it all to a woman (BM) I barely know and try really hard to tolerate. Not only that but then she tells her boyfriend, she tells her best friends, she tells everyone she knows. If my husband and I have a disagreement on a Saturday afternoon, she knows.

Long story short: I've been with my husband for 5 years (married 3yrs). We have a 2 year old together and he has a 10 year old daughter from his previous marriage. My step-daughter and I have always gotten along great. Whenever she was having any issues with friends or school she would always come to me and talk with me about them. Her bio-mom is a piece of work, she's constantly calling my husband up screaming at him for this or that (none of it has actual substance. She's also been in trouble with the law recently and has placed my step-daughter in unfit situations.

Being with my BF will mean being financially challenged. His divorce and CS and other expenses related to SD have currently made it nearly impossible to live in his own place...he lives with his mother now and will for the forseeable future or until SD decides she wants to live full-time with BM. He cannot contribute 1/2 to household finances now, maybe in the future, barring some unforseen crisis, which will eventually occur.

Add to the financial stress, his post-divorce situation with BM and SD is less than perfect, fraught with many difficult issues and dynamics...

Loca Grande took 2 of the skids out for a spending spree last night. Princess brought along a friend, and Loca Grande even bought a prom dress for the friend?!?!?!?!

Lazy Boye has been begging for his own phone for years. He's 14, and until recently has not shown enough responsibility to earn one.

She's always calling me and leaving VM, "I miss Lazy Boye; have him call me."

Now that I have notified her husband that she is to no longer contact me, I'm wondering if she'll finally break down and get Lazy Boye a phone with her newfound wealth.

It's 8am, I'm on my third cup of coffee and I'm trying to find my "happy place" in an emotional home that looks like a tornado hit it. I'm really angry at my husband because he doesn't want to get any kind of family counselling despite our story which sounds ridiculous even to me. So I'm hoping someone out there has a kind word, advice to share or at a minimum some sort of acknowledgement that I've been heard. I've been so alone in this for almost 2 years now and I really need some support.