So upset and confused right now I want to puke. I’ve been sitting at work seething all day listening to Nine Inch Nails and glaring at my wedding ring (off my hand sitting on the mouse pad… couldn’t stand the feel of it any more). I just don’t know what to do any more… it’s just two steps forward, thirty steps back and I’m getting so very tired.

SD is 11...since she is so close to 12, would it be worth it to go court now or wait until she is 12 and chooses? I'm worried that she will feel obligated to stay with her mother (mainly because BM is RUHLESS and will do anything--guilt trip, bribery, lying, etc to make sure she doens't live with us). I even suggested to my DH that we do 50/50 but he knows she wont' go for it since that would greatly reduce (or even remove) her CS.

Thoughts?

DH and I have his kids 50% of the time. I put their needs ahead of mine most of the time, and spend hours planning fun weekends, I cook and clean, I talk to them and I try hard to teach them things and be a good, positive influence in their lives, despite the fact that it is often really hard for me to give up so much of my time and energy, particularly when my connection to them is so tenuous and seems to change at any time at their whim.

My dh doesn't understand my wanting to make this drive with my bio son. Quick background, my son, though 20 in November, only got his DL after completing bootcamp when he was 18. He really doesn't have alot of driving experience. He wasn't one of the teens dead set on getting a car and everything at 16 like many are. Last year at the end of November he bought his jeep, first vehicle he's ever owned, and a week later had to fly back to Norfolk va. Where he's stationed.

My SD14 has been driving me nuts for three years. I met her three years ago. Her parents the BM and BD wanna be "friends" NOT parents all of the time. I did see on our computer last year (when SD13) her naked body and privates (doing very private things). My BD14 did see them as well, thank god she said gross. She acts out and I get very mad, alot at my husband because HELLO, do something..I act out on everyone because I truely hate this kid. NOW, he is talking to her (she moved away last fall) and keeping these things from me.

Which makes me ultra happy...

Not enough time, just didn't want to pass-by and not post anything here

Luv*

So where do i start i an newly married...about 3mths now. we have been together for 4 years total...my DH and i just found out he has a 14 year old daughter from a one night stand when he was 23! i hate that i have to deal with this situation and i find my self slightly depressed @ times when i think about it! I feel bad for the child because it certainly isn her fault but in some ways i am so happy they live so far away from us! i would appreciate some coping advice on how to deal with this situation...thanks

so last night i made a special dinner for dh, ss & myself.... anyhoo, when ss finished dinner, he says "thank you starfish, that was really good!" so enthusiastically and sincere...

awwww, he's always been my favorite in spite of hom much i bitch about him, too..

so, now i'm in good spirits and all i have to do is get thru tonight with both skids then skid-free until next wednesday.....

wahoo!!

I'm new...looking for a place to vent, but also for an objective opinion. I'm not sure I know all of your abbreviations, but will do my best! I'll save the full background history for another time, but wanted a little advice on a situation I've been irritated by for a while that kind of came to a head today. Very long story short, my husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years, but have known each other for almost 20. We both have children from other marriages; mine - 2 boys, ages 6 and 9; his - one boy, age 7. We each have 50/50 custody with our ex-spouses.

How is that there are members who only comment albeit extremely harsh, on other people's posts but don't blog their own events? Are these the BMs to watch out for?