Wow, I'm continually amazed at how these stepkids like to play guilt trips on the stepmoms. This is the second year in a row, my other stepdaughter has layed a guilt trip on me about not calling her/remembering her birthday. Now mind you, it wasn't her birthday until today. She told someone else this 1 day ago, again. Then she lays on the comment "I bet she wouldn't forget her own daughters?" Oh, man. Now, I don't even want to call her at all. Let me say, I only have so much energy to go around and to waste it on the nonsense...She just never stops. Then again, I don't think she ever will. Just last week, she was told not to swear in our house, or she could leave to her apartment. It hasn't even been a week. Drama, victim...man. Anyway, any stories of guilt trips? I think I'm finally learning..."how important is it?"...lol...

Ok, I'm still figuring out how to post on here. Anyway, I hope someone reads this and lets me know. I have had it! My stepkids are ruling the roost again. My stepdaughter is just plain abusive and evil. She makes comments about me to her boyfriend on the phone when I talk to the other kids. She grips about not getting potatoe chips for lunch. She is 18 and has a job. She was totally defiant yesterday, when I told her to give up the phone. Turning it into a complete battle ground and standing in front of the phone jack, then grabbing the phone out of my hand. My stepson thinks he can play playstation all day and not get a job. Meanwhile, my husband complains about not having enough money and pressures me about it. By the way, my husband is sick now with cancer and can't work. I told him she will not get any rides to work from me any longer. I also told him I don't think she should get the phone, he thought that was a double wammy. I think it is suits her actions. She is lucky she is still here. My question is, why am I obligated to allow her to continue to treat us this way and live here or not call the police when she acts this way? To add to things, I have an 11 year old, that is seeing this, what does that show her? I love my husband dearly. Once again, we are being pulled and I'm sick of it. Any suggestions out there, I really need to speak to someone.

My Step-Mom Hat

My step-mom hat is the hardest hat I've ever worn. It has been heart-breaking, trying, rewarding, frustrating, infuriating and life changing. I met my Husband when he was 2 years post-divorce. His son had just turned 3 and I fell in love with him. We were in college at the time and he would trek all the way to the other state his son lived in to bring him for a weekend visit. I'm talking a 7 hour drive one way. I was so in love with my Husband, I never thought about what it would be like to be a step-mom. I married him without knowing what his ex-wife was like, nor meeting her.

My step daughter is an only child on her dad's side of the family and an only grandchild. She lives with us b/c Mom can't control her. She cries constantly when she doesn't get her way. She has no way of working things out. My husband and she have a very odd relationship in that she is his best friend and he tells her everything, or at least he used to.

hi, i am a bio mother of a 6 year old girl and a potential step mother of a almost 2 potential i say because we are talking about marriage in about 6 months but not sure how it is going to turn out. well this is my story.

Does anybody have any good ideas for a poll? Let me know and I will set it up.

Dawn

OK, I need help! My future stepdaughter, who is 14 spent the weekend here and she continually tried to bait me to get something going. Finally this morning she did. And when I reacted she demanded to go home, which was fine with me.

From my family to you and yours... We hope you have a wonderful and safe Thanksgiving holiday.

-Dawn

This book has many helpful hints and ideas for step parents who are just starting out and for those that have been at it for awhile. It covers everything from discipline to grandparents to communication.

Welcome to my first blog entry on StepTalk.org. My name is Dawn and this is my web site dedicated to the discussion of the trials and tribulations of being a step parent.