SD called me last night and told me that she wants to get put on birthcontrol.... but not because she wants to have sex, she says it's to help with her periods. I asked her if she talked to BM about it and she said that yes, she tried but that BM freaked out and started yelling, etc. She asked if I would take her. I told her that no, I couldn't take her without one of her parents permission, so we agreed that her & I would talk to her dad this weekend when she came back to our house.

I have a question about my SD7 and in particular my SD5 that some of you 'in the know' may be able to help me with.

We've all see it.

I just joined this site to see if I might gain any knowledge about having to deal with my kids and my husband, their step dad....I just want to say that I am suprised at how many nasty snide remarks are being made about the step children! They have lost life as they knew it and you expect them to adjust to your ways and be lovely? While kids should be respectful of adults..their real parents are the ones that are supposed to be teaching them that. Did you think it was going to be easy having a strange kid show up at your home for however the custody battle was settled?

Alright. Venting is helpful.
I registered SS11 for 6th grade today. Everything was fine until I went to the ID Card area. He needs his ID to ride the bus.
I explained that SS11 is not with me and is "away" for the summer (I hate explaining the custody agreement to admin. I just give up the POA and let them figure out the rest.)
The nice ID Card lady asked if I could bring him in before school starts next week because it will be hectic next week.
I text BM (this has been the first time I text her in a VERY long time) as DH is away for work.

OMG, SO really set me off tonight.

SS11 just came home from BM house yesterday. She called on Sun and told us she was having issues with him and he "freaked out" and threw a bottle at a wall at BGP house. (DH and I have never seen this kind of behavior but...OK...we understand things can happen and we need to work with him on it)....so... back to yesterday.. BM jumps out of her car and comes barreling towards our door... I open and she says to me "I am not going to talk to you now..b/c if i do I am gonna freak the hell out on you" turns on heel and storms away... i come out and was like "Hey...

Sorry folks, I would never use this adjective to describe a child but this kid.......

I am cleaning up after dinner and the little princess is still eating and says "Is there more mac and cheese ?"
DH and I kinda answer in unison "Yes, it's on the counter. "

Princess gets up and says .."You two are the laziest people !"

Excuse me ?
DH says to her "Now princess that's unacceptable "

I had to walk away because I was TEMPTED to tell her:

Long story short, we had ss full time for five years before taking her to court. We took her to court for legal custody, to have his name changed and my dh's name added to the birth certificate (another man's name was on it). The court order says that she should pay 150 EOW in support. She paid that the first week and in over five years has given us somewhere around 1,000 total. That being said she is behind thousands and thousands.

So before I begin I will let you know that I'm aware that this issue sounds petty but it is more an issue of respect and simple principle for me. Every week when I go grocery shopping I keep in mind the likes of the Skids, DH and myself. I try to buy things everyone likes. I do also useally buy one item as a treat for my self during the week ( example: box of ice cream cones ) I. Always put my 'treat' item in the fridge that is in the garage, not in the main kitchen fridge. My SS13 always goes out to the garage fridge and will ask if he can have some of whatever item I got for myself.