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So I have had a very toxic relationship with my mother my entire life. However we never had any huge blow ups and just continued to go about things like everything is hunky dory. This Mother's Day I got her 24 tulips delivered in a beautiful vase with 12 gourmet chocolate covered strawberries & a card letting her know that I love her. She never called to thank me. I ended up calling her to be sure it was delivered to the correct place & she says yes, I got it. It's very nice thank you, but it just not really my thing. It's not something I would normally ask for.

OT- New job question

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I know this is completely OT but I could really use some advice on what to do since I'm torn over this one. I just got a new job a few months ago at a fantastic company. I basically landed the interview thanks to my DH who has strong ties to many people at the company because he has been doing business with them for many many years. They all think very highly of him so that's why I got the interview. Of course my skills and 'charm' is what actually landed me the job. This job is at a higher position then I am use to. It has what I consider to be, the worlds best benefits and excellent pay.

Normal or not?

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My oldest SS is 20 and almost never comes to visit his dad or I. His younger brother comes over every weekend and we all have a good time & get along fine. SS20 and I have never had any arguments or anything it was just that the older he got the more he wanted to spend time with his friends which I know is normal. He also has a serious girlfriend who DH & I have met several times. SS20 describes his dad as one of his best friends and when he was younger that was very apparent.

OT- new puppy

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I know this is off topic but I am looking for some support & encouraging words. My DH & I had a dog when we were first together. He died over a year ago. In that time since he's been gone we've really missed him but also really enjoyed our freedom of being able to come & go as we please. My SS are getting older and we occasionally have a free weekend to go away. Despite all this DH and I said that we wanted to get another dog when the time was right. A few weeks ago we found this adorable puppy for adoption.

Snarky comments. What would you do?

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So this question is only for stepparents who DO NOT have children of their own. I am only a Step-mother myself and do not have any children of my own. I have a step daughter who is only about 10 yrs younger then me. She lives across the country & we do not generally speaking have a relationship with her as she is older & doing her own thing now, but at one time we did. I also have two step sons who are 14 & 18 years younger then me. This is because my husband is 12 years older then me.

Who cares it's only me.

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I have a decent relationship with my 2 SS after much trial & error. Every single year for their birthdays we do a family party. Every single year for Father's Day I make sure the boys get something for Dad and they come over to celebrate. Every single year for my b-day & DH's b-day we go out to dinner or make a special dinner at home & have cake & gifts with the kids. Except for this year. My DH reminded SS19 that it was my b-day so he sends me a txt saying happy b-day. That's it.

New Year's Eve -BS!!!

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I am so bleeping pissed off right now it's not even funny. My DH & his ex had an agreement to take SS every other New Year's Eve. However this agreement was made when SS was 6. He is now a very mature 15. Also, we only get him on weekends. So we were thinking we will not have him this year since New Year's Eve is on a Monday night plus the kid is old enough to have his own plans. So DH drops him off this morning & BM says so you'll be getting him on New Year's Eve.

Christmas

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God forbid we ever break the mold & do something different. Every year since my 2 SS were 5 & 9 BM has to have them to herself on Christmas Eve for her open house & every Christmas they come over our house at 9:00-10:00am & stay until AT LEAST 6 or 7 pm. They are now 15 & 19. The 19 year old drops by, rips open gifts and leaves. So basically it's just the 15 yo. This year it's our weekend to have them the sat & sun before Christmas.

Resentment

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I have not been on here in such a long time but tonight I really need to vent. My SS15 has been so nice & polite to me for a very long time now. He likes to help around the house & spend time talking with me. We have finally developed a good relationship, even exchanging occasional hugs. I guess it's true thou that you should be careful what you wish for. He loves it here so much that he is here EVERY weekend. He is here all day & night on Sunday every Sunday in addition to alternating Fri/ Sat nights. He is so smart in school but has no friends he likes to hang with.

10 things I hate about today

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1.) I feel like I spend so much fricken time working on computer related topics for SS15 when he comes over. Last weekend I spent hours and hours trying to fix some stupid error on i tunes for him. The site was down and finally I got it fixed but it look hours and hours of my time. Then he wanted to hook some game system up to his TV but brought the wong cables over and so I had to hunt for the oorrect cables and hook everything up.. then he wanted our gammming speakers hooked up.

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