So my husband and I have finally put our foot down with bio mom. We are going to take her to court for custody of my step child. My husband and I live in a great school district and city, low crime, low poverty. BM lives 2 hours away in the opposite scene. We had signed the little one up for a preK drawing to make sure we got a school that had a 10 out of a 10 rating and we did. My husband asked her if we could enroll the child in school her response was "He doesn't need preK he's in daycare".

How do you explain to a 5 yr old that hasn't seen her mommy for nearly 2 months that she won't get to visit this weekend as planned because BM is likely going to jail for child neglect/endangerment?? Not 100% certain she is gone but charges are filed and she is panicking (oh makes me feel good to know that!! ) and we think since charges pending CPS won't allow visit anyway. We talk to CPS tomorrow and know more then.

I told DH if BM doesn't repect boundries with the phone calls, then we will have to turn to email. My DH tells me it's impossible to have 50/50 custody and only communicate by email. I said there were families who do it and he said who? Please, so I can tell DH "I told you so", if you have 50/50 custody and the bios ONLY communicate by email, please let me know! (this doesn't include phone calls the kids make to their parents) If I can convince him it does happen, he might be more open to it.

Hey just found this site and seems like there are some spirited, but insightful people hanging around it so maybe someone here has similar experience to my problem and can help. First a disclaimer: I'm a guy and I must admit before asking for advice that I have trouble following through on the laundry after I've made promises for two days.

SS9 comes running into the house. As I'm yelling "be careful the baby is in-" SS9 trips over baby who was playing in floor. Immediately, its chaos. Baby screaming and crying SS9 sits on the couch and bangs his head on the wall saying over and over "I can't do nothing right" I soothe baby and tell SS9 to start his homework and then continue cooking dinner. My typical SO ignores everything and continues watching TV. SS9 starts crying (he cries daily) and talking about what a looser he is. SO pulls SS9 into his lap and babies him.

If you only knew how stupid and desperate you look!

* There was a time when you taught your kids that physical intervention was the way to solve their problems.....yeah, smart one! There always some kind of drama going on at your house.

I am so annoyed with how I am getting bent out of shape by the rude behavior of my SD12 – she is a freaking kid – yet when she is around, I am on edge. I know I am the adult and I am usually a pretty happy person. However, I hate that when she is around and in one of her rude moods, she makes me feel bad about myself and the “job” (because let’s face it – this is a nonpaying job) I am doing as a stepmom – I feel like screaming: What am I doing to YOU to make you be such a snarky brat to me?

I am so upset right now. So if you are intent on bashing me please move on. I can't handle it right now. I am barely holding my anger and tears in check. I feel guilty as hell that I didn't do something sooner.

Okay, so I got a job to get me out of this house! I'm tired, but I think it was a good decision.

Now I'm not home to clean the laundry room, let the dogs out, keep the kitchen clean, and bitch about all the other crap that bothers me about sharing a house with piggish ungrateful skids.

Yesterday, DH came home an nearly had a coronary. First he argues with SS22 about SS putting money aside to prepare him to move out after college next May.

I was so excited to find this site!! My husband gets tired of my complaining about his ex and so does my mom and everyone else!!

I have an unusual situation. I have a daughter, her father and I were never married, and he is married to a girl I went to high school with. Things were rough at first, but 10 years later, we are like a happy family (to an extent). we all get along, both parents and step-parents!!

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years.