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Burbs_girl's picture

I was so excited to find this site!! My husband gets tired of my complaining about his ex and so does my mom and everyone else!!

I have an unusual situation. I have a daughter, her father and I were never married, and he is married to a girl I went to high school with. Things were rough at first, but 10 years later, we are like a happy family (to an extent). we all get along, both parents and step-parents!!

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years.

Ready for the 360? not all roses on my husband's side of things!! His daughter is a teenager, just turned, so you can imagine. Don't get me wrong she is a wonderful kid that I love dearly!! And have no problem out of her whats so ever!!

The problems are with the BM!!! If I had the time to list everything that she has pulled, I would be here for a while, so for the sake of time I will let you know the latest!!!

Halloween.
Halloween fell on our weekend this year. But BM wanted her. At my SD birthday party!!! BM actually told my husband that she had ALWAYS had the child on Halloween and that was HER Holiday, and if we got the child for Halloween, then she wanted her for Thanksgiving. :?

Seriously?!?!? halloween up there with Thanksgiving?? :jawdrop: she also stated that if she did not have the child for halloween it would break her heart! :sick: Always about her!! She is the most important person in this equation.

Just like she NEVER has the child ready to go at Noon on Christmas because SHE is not done with her family!!

Its all about her, not anyone else not even the child!!

I'm really having a time with this, one side is wonderful and the other is...well I better keep it clean....

Oh Lordy, I need to stop now before I get the award for worlds longest blog post!!!

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pullmyhairout's picture

Oh BM's are wonderful aren't they!
I just found the site too and am addicted. LOL
So did you end up letting her have the child?
One year at x-mas (we were to drop the kids off at two)our BM called us and demanded the children be back for noon instead. We said no our agreed time was 2 and we were 2 hours away, that would of meant packing the kids up at 10 on x-mas morning, fun fun fun, she threatened to call the cops and had the girls crying all during x-mas eve dinner.
What a winner she is....we all have one to deal with it sucks!

overit2's picture

Oh hon, I feel you. Our bm got jealous of her D Halloweens w/her dad (my BF) and just HAD to swap it with him because she had big plans dont' you know?

Well...it threw my bf and I off our schedule for a month. We have it lined up to where we both have our kids the same wknd and the other wknd my kids are w/their dad and his w/his ex-this is how we get our 'us' time as a couple.

So...she throws that off for a month for her BIG plans..which consisted of her going to a church festival for an hr with her fat ass friend..so basically her fat ass and fat ass friend DROVE the kids aroudn in their neighborhood w/out even letting them walk around to trick or treat because THEY didn't want to. The girl was SO mad she could spit nails at how bad her halloween sucked w/her mom. So yeah...they be crazy Smile LOL

Burbs_girl's picture

Well we ended up having her for Halloween only because in our town the trick or treating was being done on Sunday!! I told my husband how nice it was for her to "allow" us to have her on our weekend!!
Oh the stories I could tell!! I so wish I know about this sooner!! I'm so addicted!! Lol
I guess I'm used to how thing are on my side with my Childs BF and SM!!
Here's one!! My husband gave BM $25 for reeds. Almost two months later, my SD still needed reeds for her clarinet. So my husband asked about it. SD said she hadn't gotten them for her yet, so I take her down to the music store and bought her some. My husband called BM to ask about it since it had been almost two months. She said she just hadn't had time. :? Um yeah. Well we have to go to BM's house to drop something off and BM calls the child back in. I'm sitting in my car in the cul-de-sac and can hear BM yelling at the child!!! I called my husband, because that is wrong!! The child did nothing wrong she did not deserve to be yelled at. Apparently in her crazy diluted mind she thought the child told us that she, BM, wouldn't buy the reeds!!! Oh yeah and I'm the one trying to start drama! My children, and yes I refer to my SD as mine, are #1 in my life! You don't mess with my girls!! It's called respect!! If you give it you get!!