I understand the saying I can say something bad about someone in my family but no better else better or ill kill their ass. But this morning was not the right time- I told my H the same thing he told me word for word but I was wrong how the hell is that? So if it comes from your mouth its right but from mine its wrong? I told him I have gone though to much I'm not doing it with him. I said remember I'm on your side! When he does that I feel like he is teaming up with BM and I'm the bad guy! Grrrrr! He doesn't do it a lot or even often but when he does it cuts deep. What do I do?

I posted a while back that my step sons unfriended me on face book. I didn't believe they were the ones that did. I was right I talked to the ss15 last night on face book and he had no idea and added me back. I do believe him at this point. The whole thing didn't make since as Bm would send texts about my face book and said that the boys showed it to her. How can they show it to her if they are not my friends anymore? Of course dh would tell her it was none of her business. Of course I had my private settings on. I think Bm was the one messing with their face books.

I am married 5 years (together 7) to a widower with two SD. They are now 22 and 19 and they make my life so hard. They are disresptful to me, dismiss me and my DH doesn't see it and says its me. Ihave raised them supported them as if they were my own as their mother has passed. My DH was single for 3 years before we met. His children are so mean to me but when he is around they are nice and so it seems I am the one with the problem. I never wanted to take their mothers place (nor could I) but to not be respected is very hard.

This is way off topic vent, and kind of a weird coincidence, since Gilly was just asking for punch recipes...

My mother sent an email to me and my sister, stating that my Great Aunt is downsizing and moving into a condo. Auntie wanted my mother to ask if one of us would like to have my Great Grandmother's punch bowl. Of course I would like to have it, as this was the punch bowl used at my wedding shower, reception, and baby shower, plus every Easter and Mother's Day celebration since I can remember.

"Mom"
"what Sweety?"
"Why can we see our air when its cold out?"
"Its called breath Sweety"
Her"Ok, why can we see our breath when its cold out?"

Me "Because our breath is warmer than the air outside of us"
Her "Ok, but why can we see it?"
Me"its condensation Sweety and our hot breath starts to turn solid when it hits the cold air"

Her "whats combensayshun?" Me "ask your science teacher"

if we continue to disengage? Have been disengaged from SD17 for a few years now, even though DH is PC and she is with us 85% of time. Saw it in DH eyes the other night that he is starting to disengage from my BS16 and it hurt to see that, since he has been only real dad to BS for over 1/2 his life. Any others have to deal with this and possible fall out? Will DH resent, and I resent the other as they don't get excited over happy events w/bios?

Hi - I had to to tell my husband today that my SS cannot come into our house not even to visit. He is a recovering addict and recently diagnosed as bi-polar and currently in a full time program for that issue. My DH says that I dont want him to have a relationship with his son which is not true. Until this past summer I thought I had a close relationship with my SS (I have no kids of my own) but then we discovered he was a herion addict. I just feel like he used me for money for many years (I make twice what his father does). He manipulated and used me.

So my husband and I have finally put our foot down with bio mom. We are going to take her to court for custody of my step child. My husband and I live in a great school district and city, low crime, low poverty. BM lives 2 hours away in the opposite scene. We had signed the little one up for a preK drawing to make sure we got a school that had a 10 out of a 10 rating and we did. My husband asked her if we could enroll the child in school her response was "He doesn't need preK he's in daycare".

How do you explain to a 5 yr old that hasn't seen her mommy for nearly 2 months that she won't get to visit this weekend as planned because BM is likely going to jail for child neglect/endangerment?? Not 100% certain she is gone but charges are filed and she is panicking (oh makes me feel good to know that!! ) and we think since charges pending CPS won't allow visit anyway. We talk to CPS tomorrow and know more then.

I told DH if BM doesn't repect boundries with the phone calls, then we will have to turn to email. My DH tells me it's impossible to have 50/50 custody and only communicate by email. I said there were families who do it and he said who? Please, so I can tell DH "I told you so", if you have 50/50 custody and the bios ONLY communicate by email, please let me know! (this doesn't include phone calls the kids make to their parents) If I can convince him it does happen, he might be more open to it.