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karinbart's picture

I have been married for almost 8 years and my husband has a 16 year old daughter. I do everything for her. Cook, clean, help with homework, pick up from school. She has homecoming next week and she told her dad it made her uncomfortable to have me and her mom in the same room so my husband asked me to stay home from homecoming. He constantly puts his daughter's feelings before my own. I am sure it is her mom feeling uncomfortable but I was shocked, stunned and very hurt tonight. I don't know what to do.

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GoodbyeNormaJean's picture

That would hurt. I'm sorry.

Maybe next time she asks you to do something for her, let her know that's her mom or dad's job. You're not hired help.

I'm really sorry.

THE Wifey's picture

I see this eventually happening in my situation. I would not be an adult about it at all when it does. I will start packing my things until FDH agrees not to go. If they don't want me there, that is fine, but then they don't get their dad either. I think mine know this and tolerate me going to things. Sorry, but that is crap and your DH shouldn't allow her to get away with it. I wouldn't lift another finger to help either of them, but then I am pretty angry as of late, so I wouldn't necessarily take my advice.

bebbo's picture

Yes I agree no sm no daddy!
One of bm schemes to show the
Whole world that luk we r still
Together therez nthing anyone
Can do bout it!I mean if u get
To do all the dirty laundry and the
Cooking u shud have equal rights as a
Parent too even if u wudnt go bt the courtesy
To ask you wud do!u must b devasted rlly sorry

renae911's picture

I think he shold have stood up for your feelings not the mom. And she is 16 life is going to have uncomfortable situations. It would have been good practice being uncomfortable around people that love you. I am sure you are soo devistated. My sd 15 is going to 2 homecomeings and we are not part of any of it. the bm wants all the attention on her. And she does it too just because she likes the control.