My DH found some items in my 14 y/o SD's room that are very damaging. She was out with friends and he called her home. She swore they were not her's and that she was just going to throw them out. He told her to stay in...

She promptly called her BM and told her the situation and how no one believed her etc. My DH told her to stay in, but after the call she went out.

I just wanted to be able to share something fairly POSITIVE involving my relations with BM with all of you here on StepTalk, in the hopes that it will prove to at least ONE of my step-buddies here that it's not ALL a lost cause ALL the time in this crazy world we call stepparenting.

I received a text message from BM today. Important note: We have NEVER texted each other EVER before and we rarely ever talk directly to each other, unless it is a cordial "hello" or something at a pick up/drop off - this is over 6+ years!!

I hope the hell i cry, cuz if i don't im gonna hurt sd9...now effin hd. SD came home with mudd all over bottom of socks...yep she can do what ever she wants and guess what, Guilty Daddy wont tell her about it cuz she will cry. So i pointed out the socks and he lets her continue through the house, through the carpet, and just say's, make sure you take them off..she says ok like all nicey and shit. Um why the hell would you let her go all through the house and not make her take them off right away.

I was married 6 months ago. I moved into my dh house with 3 skids. I thought that was the best thing to do as not to uproot them from school and their friends since during the divorcing years thay were shuffled around enough. They are teenagers and live with us full time and their mother rarely takes them and if she does, it is one at a time. I never had children, but adore my 4 neices aged 8 to 22 so I thought this would be easy and fun like with them.

If I had truly understood what it meant to become a stepmom I don't think I would be in this position, I would have run, run, run to the nearest ...oh I don't know what. I have 5 step children and 4 biological children. 9 is a lot, working full time is a lot, having step-children issues makes me want to jump off the tallest bridge. I am my husband's 3rd wife, 1st in jail, 2nd local but the meanest grossest person you ever met. And of course, me the hardworking, trying to be responsible, loving (I thought) person is the evil one that they all hate.

Princess and Stepping Stone broke up, got back together and broke up again, all in less than 2 weeks time. This time I pretty sure it's for really. The in-laws were over for dinner last night, and after cleaning up, Loghead set up the computer so we could Skype with her. She had a girlfriend with her, so we didn't stay on very long. But it was enough to make her homesick, because less than 20 minutes later she called me, all upset. She's been so broken hearted about the break up that she hasn't been able to keep food down all week, she can't sleep.

Just heard from SO that BM got some kind of a summons for SS16 and her to appear in court in the next town over - apparently stemming from the incident where SS16 was out on the street over there during Labor Day weekend (I thought that happened here in our town, but I was wrong).

BM doesn't speak English and has no knowledge of the courts - she just told SO that she got something and she's very upset. SO is going to go see what it is and to talk to SS.

So my sd sent me to my other sd room to check her dresser cuz it stinks. I found underware that had not been washed since who knows when... and a used pad.. nasty!!!!! this is not the first time i found dirty underware in her drawer. I tell dh and he says for me to talk to her about it. I talked to bio mom who btw thinks she is better than everyone. She says yes she is gross at her house also but she is sure that she finds it way b4 I do and she has her clean it. Well i dont make it normal practice to dig through her drawers.

Edit.. decided it was too much info! Don't want to give BM any ammo

That's what SO said to me after the three of us were down at the police station the other night regarding SS16. I said two things in response - first, I just saw she was upset, I didn't really notice anything else, and second, I never really thought she looked that good anyway. LOL

She does look pretty desperate, but I saw more emotional and mental strain that physical effects. Physically she looks the same as ever - pretty average. But she looks like she's losing her mind. I actually felt bad for her.